OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!! This morning we started at 5:30am tickleing, saying get up bath ( wouldnt take one yesterday came home late from Cub Scouts meeting at 8:30 refused bath) and I gave up and said Im going back to bed this morning gnight. Well he threw tantrum kickicking doors etc. My dad took the phones away cuz my son always threatens to call cops and calls my dad constantly. So I took a super couple min bath and as soon as I got out, door bell ranf. Thought thats weird at 6:30 est thi am? Thought maybe my grandpas caregivers.. walked to the front and a cop turned the corner!!!!!! OMG!!! I was all, yes? He goes " everything ok here, we got a call" I said yes sir, we didnt call, and he kept nicely repeating isnt your phone number ....... and I said yes but we didnt call, maybe a neighbor? He said no, this house. Hmm, I got quite and said" had to be my son but when he tantrums we take all phones and hide em in my room" He said he called somehow, ok well I told him my son possible ADHD or something and he asked if he was on medications. i said no cuz doctors kept saying all boy etc. Well, I asked him if he wanted to come in and see him for himself and told him hed have to break or somehow unlock his door cuz he locked it. Well, he just looked at me and I said ok, let me see if hee will come out and he said ill be here. I went in my son refused. Back out, told cop he refused, showed him his window and he tried looking in after my son peaked out but couldnt see. I said sir, please Im asking u to go in, and talk to him I don't know what else to do, he screams, damages, bites himself, refuses get ready for school. Cop said I cant force him to school thats not my jurisdiction" I said I know , he took my name date birth, my sons too. He left and my son wanted to call him back to tell him I spanked him on his butt a while back and held him down! Well The pediatrician gave me permission to do it when he was out of control ( hurting self or going after us) before!! Yes, I have leaned over him but gave him enough space to kick, pinch and bite me, he can move his head and breathe. Those times he was going after us with scissors, sharp toys etc. No I wont do that again nor will I confine him if hes being violent, I quit spanking him on his butt ( thats legal still) I went with him to school ( my dad usually drives cuz I am not always ready to go with my sons issues I am exhausted - no excuse but its migrane/chest pain sometimes city for me) Anyway, we got there I talked to his last years teacher, he started to scream and yelled shut up so the seceraty and her heard him. I went back up talked to his Principal who just pulled up turned my head and there was his last years teacher, this year and 3rd grade teacher fininshing dressing him!!!! ( told them bout cops, history again etc- told his last year teacher well, if u thought I was mean abusive etc u woulda called the cops right?She said" Uh ya!!!" The Principal said she doesnt know what they can help with when dr send them the info questionare cuz he hisnt violent at school only issues with h.with- classwork. I said I know Im trying to keep it that way, but thats y everyone says its me cuz he blows at home, with family and stores. She just looked at me. I said if it wasnt for u all and the forum I am on I don't know what I would do, I have video at home, uu wanna see it? She didnt say anything. I said sorry about staring your day this way, but if you all talked or you had issues w him. She said its fine, and she will wait for the papers and give them to the teachers. My neighbor who her daughter is the one my son hit, whether playfully, angry playfully or angry didn't even know, her daughter didnt tell her. I apologized and she said dont worry I understand. She lives next door and hears all this hell, you can hear all this down the block and yes we have yelled back like a child! I know, that makes it worse, it starts with us showing him by example we are just out of ideas and everything else.I wish I could upload his kicking the doors and screaming somehow ( not showing his face or mine or names) I feel I have to prove everything that everyone thinks I am a lier Im not saying you all think that- I just feel that, others esp the doctors over the years, my aunt and an ex friend. The only thing I remember ever lying about was taking ciggerates and alcohol from my dad and step mom,and sneaking in boys thats it!! Oh I had trouble in math college course so I didnt tell family anything cuz I had other classes. I just said its always the same with my grades cuz it was they knew i was failing so i didnt bring it up I know I am far from perfect but I love my kids, I would do anything for them, they are my life.