I am at my wits end when it comes to my son. He has been having issues for about a year and they are progressively getting worse. It started off just not doing work in school last September, then in December he got kicked off the bus for threatening to hit a classmate. We took him to see a councilor at school and he saw her for the rest of the school year. In that time he still did not do any work in school and he spent most of the school year doing all his class work at home along with his homework. He barely made it to the third grade, but thankfully he did. His temper has become out of control, more so at his fathers house than mine. He tells his father all the time that he hates him and he wants to run away, he makes fists and threatens to punch his father, he kicks little girls and tells them they are fat and ugly, he lies to me and to his father all the time, he lies to his teachers, he tries to play his father and step mother against me, knowing that we talk all the time. and he recently started peeing on his floor. when i found out he did that at my house he lied about it for about an hour then finally told me the truth and said he did it because he did not think he would make it to the bathroom. he has since done this 3 other times at my house and 4 times at his fathers house. he tells his father that he is mad and that is why he does it. he cuts all his clothes with his scissors, he breaks all his toys, he has no respect for anything and i have tried everything from grounding him, to ignoring it. I have done reward programs to promote good behavior and that only works of r a couple days. I have cleaned his room completely of all toys and made him earn them back and that too does not last. he has been physical with kids and tells his father that he hates everyone. These issues happen more at his fathers house than my house. He is not physical with anyone at my house, but he does pee and lie and disrespect people here. he has been tested for ADHD and he does not have it. I seriously am lost right now. he had a caseworker coming to my house but she said his problems were not bad enough for her to continue. I have had crisis workers come talk to him, he has been to therapy, NOTHING works. he just seems to not care. HELP ME!!!