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9 yr old Oppositional Defiance Disorder with PTSD
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<blockquote data-quote="neednewtechnique" data-source="post: 77747" data-attributes="member: 3527"><p>Wow, you must always remember that you are doing a GREAT THING by taking in a kid with these kinds of special needs, and that you are probably EXACTLY what he needs in his life right now, someone who will parent him and love him, depsite his problems. </p><p></p><p>Our difficult child is my husband's daughter, but she only moved in with us in January, and so bringing a kid into our home like that was sort of like adopting for me... and she faces issues of Complex PTSD, Bipolar, and ODD. </p><p></p><p>One good thing, if treated properly, and a child is in a stable, positive environment long enough, most kids are resiliant enough to bounce back from the PTSD. The odd however, I am guessing would be attached to another condition that maybe has not been discovered yet. You can find information on all sorts of common "co-morbid" or co-existing conditions that can attach themselved to ODD. I don't know what kind of records they have on psychiatrist evaluations and things that he has been through in the past, but if you find them to be inadequate or incomplete or a little off, I would suggest you set him up to have a full-blown evaluation done right away so you can fully understand what you are dealing with, this will help you know what direction to take with parenting and how to handle things as they come up, and taking an active role in treatment will ensure that your child is getting the best possible psychiatric care that he can.</p><p></p><p>Again, hats off to you for taking this on, our difficult child's foster mother always told everyone that our difficult child was a PERFECT ANGEL because she was her first kid and she didn't want to "look bad to CPS", so we really had NO CLUE what we were in for, until about a week after she moved in. But we have adjusted and adapted, and although it took nearly 9 months, we have a solid set of house rules that we all can agree on, and most importantly, ones that difficult child is capable of following and WE are capable of enforcing. Remember, safety issues, such as violence towards self and others has to be TOP OF THE LIST 100% NON NEGOTIABLY NOT ALLOWED! Everything else will flow down from there, take one or two things at a time to work on and once he masters those, add a few more. You definitely should read the book. The Explosive Child by Dr. Ross Greene, most people here will swear by it and it really is a GREAT tool for working with children that have the needs that ours do.</p><p></p><p>Best of all, you have US!!! There are always people here, day and night, to offer support, advice, or just to listen if you need to rant. Welcome, and I hope we can be there for you as you complete this process, and most of all, after difficult child shows up and you start dealing with it first-hand.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="neednewtechnique, post: 77747, member: 3527"] Wow, you must always remember that you are doing a GREAT THING by taking in a kid with these kinds of special needs, and that you are probably EXACTLY what he needs in his life right now, someone who will parent him and love him, depsite his problems. Our difficult child is my husband's daughter, but she only moved in with us in January, and so bringing a kid into our home like that was sort of like adopting for me... and she faces issues of Complex PTSD, Bipolar, and ODD. One good thing, if treated properly, and a child is in a stable, positive environment long enough, most kids are resiliant enough to bounce back from the PTSD. The odd however, I am guessing would be attached to another condition that maybe has not been discovered yet. You can find information on all sorts of common "co-morbid" or co-existing conditions that can attach themselved to ODD. I don't know what kind of records they have on psychiatrist evaluations and things that he has been through in the past, but if you find them to be inadequate or incomplete or a little off, I would suggest you set him up to have a full-blown evaluation done right away so you can fully understand what you are dealing with, this will help you know what direction to take with parenting and how to handle things as they come up, and taking an active role in treatment will ensure that your child is getting the best possible psychiatric care that he can. Again, hats off to you for taking this on, our difficult child's foster mother always told everyone that our difficult child was a PERFECT ANGEL because she was her first kid and she didn't want to "look bad to CPS", so we really had NO CLUE what we were in for, until about a week after she moved in. But we have adjusted and adapted, and although it took nearly 9 months, we have a solid set of house rules that we all can agree on, and most importantly, ones that difficult child is capable of following and WE are capable of enforcing. Remember, safety issues, such as violence towards self and others has to be TOP OF THE LIST 100% NON NEGOTIABLY NOT ALLOWED! Everything else will flow down from there, take one or two things at a time to work on and once he masters those, add a few more. You definitely should read the book. The Explosive Child by Dr. Ross Greene, most people here will swear by it and it really is a GREAT tool for working with children that have the needs that ours do. Best of all, you have US!!! There are always people here, day and night, to offer support, advice, or just to listen if you need to rant. Welcome, and I hope we can be there for you as you complete this process, and most of all, after difficult child shows up and you start dealing with it first-hand. [/QUOTE]
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