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9 yr old Oppositional Defiance Disorder with PTSD
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 77790" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>If you have younger children, also please be careful. We were told that over 95% of foster children were sexually abused somewhere in their lives. We adopted a little boy and the history and diagnosis on him was "a very nice boy with cognitive issues." He sexually abused our younger kids and killed animals in our home and the neighborhood and, after we called CPS and they took him away, he was charged with First Degree Sexual Assault on of a minor (he was a minor too). His new diagnosis became "Severe Reactive Attachment Disorder." My own personal advice is that if you have younger kids, don't adopt an older child because that puts THEM at risk. We never would have adopted this boy if we hadn't been told what a nice boy he was. His foster mom of five years before us hadn't known that he'd sexually abused her daycare kids--he was so sneaky and such a good actor and his psyschiatrists and psycologists never caught his deviances either. All I can say is, be prepared for possibly finding out that the child won't get better and may get worse and that love doesn't cure all. The children that we adopted at ages two and under have done great, but they had never been abused either. Dont expect regular discipline measures to work with this child, possibly not ever. I would join an adoptive parent group of children with special needs to make sure this is for you. It requires unconditional love on your part and the knowledge that the child may give you nothing back--and that no matter how good a parent you are, the child may already be too damaged to ever be "normal." If you are a single parent be prepared to have childcare issues. At any rate, good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 77790, member: 1550"] If you have younger children, also please be careful. We were told that over 95% of foster children were sexually abused somewhere in their lives. We adopted a little boy and the history and diagnosis on him was "a very nice boy with cognitive issues." He sexually abused our younger kids and killed animals in our home and the neighborhood and, after we called CPS and they took him away, he was charged with First Degree Sexual Assault on of a minor (he was a minor too). His new diagnosis became "Severe Reactive Attachment Disorder." My own personal advice is that if you have younger kids, don't adopt an older child because that puts THEM at risk. We never would have adopted this boy if we hadn't been told what a nice boy he was. His foster mom of five years before us hadn't known that he'd sexually abused her daycare kids--he was so sneaky and such a good actor and his psyschiatrists and psycologists never caught his deviances either. All I can say is, be prepared for possibly finding out that the child won't get better and may get worse and that love doesn't cure all. The children that we adopted at ages two and under have done great, but they had never been abused either. Dont expect regular discipline measures to work with this child, possibly not ever. I would join an adoptive parent group of children with special needs to make sure this is for you. It requires unconditional love on your part and the knowledge that the child may give you nothing back--and that no matter how good a parent you are, the child may already be too damaged to ever be "normal." If you are a single parent be prepared to have childcare issues. At any rate, good luck! [/QUOTE]
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