I am beyond livid with pcdaughter. She had decided in November to enter the military. First, she looked at the guard. Then she changed to the Navy. She did tons of research. We had numerous conversations about our concerns. Had her mind made up. We (husband and I) came to terms with her choice, became excited for her. Then....loser ex-boyfriend, a guy that husband and I both loathe, a guy that she moved to another town to be near and then left and returned home because he was so controlling and mean, a guy that she changed her phone number to avoid having to communicate with, come back into the picture...and POOF...there goes all her plans..."But mom, it's not because of him." She didn't register for school this term because of her decision to join the navy. She works for an insurance company 20 hours a week. We provide her a car, insurance, an apt. She pays her cell phone, groceries, light bill. I have told as of Feb. 1, she is on her own. If she wants to be an adult, she needs to act like one and she will be financially responsible for all of her needs. Am I wrong? She and I have not spoken since Thursday when she told me to stay out of her life for good....It's killing me....I'm sure it's killing her as well, as we were so close. In fact, that is why she admitted she was seeing him again because she can't stand to keep secrets between us.....Ugh! I hate this! It's so easy to detach from difficult child, I have dealt with his drama for years. She has, for the most part, been a joy! This is killing me.