My brother in law (sister's husband) was recently laid off work. He & my sis are hurting financially. Having said that, 2 days after husband died he called to ask me what I'm going to do with my "extra" mini van. Went on to ask me if he could have one of our laptops. brother in law, my husband has only been gone 2 days; we haven't even held the funeral. Well, brother in law called me a couple of days ago ~ heard that I have life insurance coming in & would like to do the remodel here for me. My brother in law is one talented man in building furniture, cabinets & counter tops. He made me the most beautiful island for my kitchen & I use it continually. Saying that, the remodel is going to take a bit of plumbing, electrical wiring & HVAC rerouting. There are codes in this state that have to be adhered to; especially when/if the market picks up & I want to sell my home (you know, once the tweedles become adults & I need to hide. ) I need a crew of workers to get this done on a timely basis. brother in law then once again asked me when he was going to be able to pick up one of the laptops here. I never ever promised this man a computer of any type. I may have mentioned to my sister once I get the data off one of the desk units I may set her up with a work station of sorts but not a brand new laptop. It's almost embarassing. And because brother in law is family I'll have to delicately let him know that I will not be using him for my remodel. He doesn't have the skills or licensure needed for this state to pass all the building codes. I'd really like to help my sister out (I don't think she's aware that brother in law is annoying people like this) but not at the risk of having to hire someone behind him to clean up a mess. He doesn't belong here 325 miles from home not looking for work there. Am I thinking straight here?