For those that don't know, difficult child 1 is on the girlfriend/CF diet and when she follows it, she is a easy child (I think). When she doesn't follow it, she is back to her old, defiant ways. I think we can treat her as a easy child since it is within her control to be one. So if she were really depressed, I might not expect her to do chores but since she is depressed because she ate something, she needs to face the consequence of not doing her chores. From what I can tell, she cheats about every other week. She will eat something and then the rest of the weekend, she will not do chores and is difficult to be around. Walking into the same room will irritate her. So, after that happens, she doesn't get to do anything else that weekend. What usually happens is she will have a bad weekend, then get it together and do enough chores to be able to do what she wants the next weekend. At her best, she has to be reminded a lot to do them and if we don't follow through enough times, they go undone. She will do her Saturday chores if there is something she wants to do that day. Last weekend was a bad weekend for her. husband and I have gotten tired of her having every other weekend of privileges and resulting bad behaviour so we told her this time that she has lost all of her privileges for 2 weeks. The two weeks starts when she is doing her chores when asked and when she is reasonably civil to the family. She is back to being pleasant enough and doing some of her chores, but she still refuses to do some of them, saying there is no reason to do them since she is already grounded. We have her cell phone and she has lost TV and computer privileges. Obviously, she doesn't get to go out with her friends for now. We will re-instate some of these privileges as we go along. I feel like as long as she is saying she won't do chores because she isn't getting anything out of it, she hasn't gotten our message. Any advice?