Our daughter, mid twenties, has bipolar illness and a physical health concern. She is on disability. She has off and on entitlement issues, which we dissuade. She often tries to get little part time/temp jobs, but has many problems with this. Sometimes she succeeds and might get a little work for a day or two. This maxes her out. Her thinking is often very illogical...to say the least. And she has little to no cause and effect reasoning.BUT.... She often asks to put up our xmas tree for a little money. Also, take it down. We are glad for her to do this. She does a good job. husband hit 60 a few years ago and is more tired of late and my own health has been kind of crummy for awhile now. This year, I was extra sick and her help taking the tree down was very very much appreciated. She asked to do it on a certain day. We said we would order some food for dinner (for all of us) and then she could do it. Well....during dinner she got a call. Seems some friends wanted to meet up with her...nothing sinister...show her their baby or something. Next thing we knew, she said she was sick and had to leave and would do it the next day. husband was furious and I was about the same. I have little expectations and was at least intrigued that she said she would come the following day. It all stinks. husband said he waited for days for her to pick a day, got her special food and had a "deal" with her...all very true. husband really wanted the tree down, so he did most of the work himself and I helped a little. We took the tree down that night after she left. difficult child had a VERY important appointment. the following morning near husband's office, but of course husband would have to leave a little early in order to take her to the appointment. he said he would do it. So....very much unlike him...he called her and said "he changed his mind." So, difficult child had to get up and take a 6am bus and take multiple buses to get to her apt. Much later that day, she called and profusely apologized to husband saying she got the message "loud and clear." She was exhausted and grouchy, but somehow kept it together and acted very appropriately and contrite with husband. Let's just hope she remembers...honestly she rarely does, but fingers crossed. PS I assure you we have days that are more in line with the difficult posts we read her....they have reduced slightly, thank goodness and I just don't have the energy to talk about it. I'm just thrilled she figured this little thing out!