1)neuropsychologist evaluation's- should I really get one or just work off of the diagnosis we have? What is the benefit of having a neuropsychologist evaluate him? 2)Is it really me? We went to my mom's for a visit last week and today on the phone my mom talked to me about how difficult child is a handful and how if I don't get a grip on him he's going to end up in juvenile dentention. It was a horrible conversation where I ended up going to the bathroom and crying. Of course she just wanted me to realize that *I* need to make sure to get a break from him (how does telling me he'll end up in jd help in any way?) She said when difficult child went into my brother's room all my brother had to do was tell him "no, don't jump. No, don't play with that" and he stopped immediately but since he didn't do that with me I must be doing something wrong. Needless to say next time she brings up difficult child I'm telling her it's not up for discussion and bean dipping her. I realize I'm new here and there isn't any history here for you to go on, but has anyone else delt with anyone saying something similar? "He knows he can get away with it" was something she said and it makes me want to cry all over again because I don't see how I let him get away with anything. If he's rude or disrespectful he has to either "fix" it (apologize and try again) or go somewhere else until he can be civil (his room, a bathroom, whatever works at the moment) and I reaffirm that disrespect is not okay and I do not respond well to it at all. I don't know what she expects me to do. Hitting (including spanking) and yelling only make him (and me!) spiral out of control. Sometimes all he needs is food. Which leads me to the next question: 3)What do you all do when your difficult child is disrespectful? I'm still really upset over my mom's accusation that "he knows he can get away with it" today. To me it = parenting failure. I'm pretty sure this has just completely changed my relationship with her.