husband works now on Sunday during our church time. Our church is 3 hours long and easy child 3 eats during the most of the 1st hour. This means I'm in the mothers room. I need help to watch the other kids during this hour especially difficult child 1. I went to our womens leader with what has been going on in our home and requested help for this hour. She was very supportive and went to go talk to the preacher about it. She came back to talk to me. She told me difficult child 1 is no longer welcome to come to church. She went on to say that in a few weeks if difficult child 1 was better he could come back. AND, that if I could find someone in the family to watch him the rest of the family could come. I told her that this was going to last much longer than a few weeks and no, I'm not going to have the rest of the family go to church and leave difficult child 1 behind. I was floored. First, this goes against our scriptures and church policy. Second, it shows a shocking lack of knowledge of mental illness. Third, its just not nice. So, I went over the preachers head. And called the man in charge of this preacher (called a stake president). I explained the situation to him. He is going to talk to the preacher. He is going to try to get us help so we can go to church. I'll update when I hear back from him. Of course husband doesn't understand how much this hurts me (this church is the only socialization I get outside of the kids therapists and this board.) He doesn't understand my need to talk about it. I try to get him to open up about his thoughts and feeling about it and he changes the subject. So, I'm here writing about it. And I called my parents who tried to re-start an old fight between us. I didn't have the emotional energy for that and thanked them for their advice and hung up fast. Should've known better than to call them. So, anyone else have church problems that can vent and commiserate with me?