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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 695782" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>I totally get why you would feel guilty but that's in the past. It's okay to forgive yourself, in fact it's necessary for you to forgive yourself so that you can move on.</p><p>If your mother is still living and if you haven't done so already, call her and apologize, or writer her letter.</p><p>Just because we have made choices in our own lives that have hurt others does not mean we deserve to be punished.</p><p>Life is tough enough we don't need to add to it by harboring guilt.</p><p>Please, forgive yourself and understand that <span style="color: #ff4d4d"><u>you do not deserve this</u></span>.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Thank you for being so honest. You have nothing to be ashamed about. This is not all uncommon. You simply became co-dependent. The good thing is that you realize it and from there you can start to change. In order for any of us to change we have to change our thinking. It's easier said than done but it can be done.</p><p>One thing that has helped me is to write positive affirmations on sticky notes and put them on my bathroom mirror.</p><p>Read them and re-read them, take them in, believe them.</p><p>Some suggestions: I can rely on myself to be happy and I deserve to be happy</p><p> I will not harbor guilt, I forgive myself</p><p>Also list some things you are grateful for.</p><p>This may feel odd at first but it really does work to help change our thinking.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS)) to you!!!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 695782, member: 18516"] I totally get why you would feel guilty but that's in the past. It's okay to forgive yourself, in fact it's necessary for you to forgive yourself so that you can move on. If your mother is still living and if you haven't done so already, call her and apologize, or writer her letter. Just because we have made choices in our own lives that have hurt others does not mean we deserve to be punished. Life is tough enough we don't need to add to it by harboring guilt. Please, forgive yourself and understand that [COLOR=#ff4d4d][U]you do not deserve this[/U][/COLOR]. Thank you for being so honest. You have nothing to be ashamed about. This is not all uncommon. You simply became co-dependent. The good thing is that you realize it and from there you can start to change. In order for any of us to change we have to change our thinking. It's easier said than done but it can be done. One thing that has helped me is to write positive affirmations on sticky notes and put them on my bathroom mirror. Read them and re-read them, take them in, believe them. Some suggestions: I can rely on myself to be happy and I deserve to be happy I will not harbor guilt, I forgive myself Also list some things you are grateful for. This may feel odd at first but it really does work to help change our thinking. ((HUGS)) to you!!! [/QUOTE]
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