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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 752565" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Yes, Busy. He knows he can earn money without it affecting his SSI/SDI. I think he can earn close to $1000 a month. But he does not want Social Security to know that he is able to work. He fears loss of the benefit. He thinks if he demonstrates capacity he is at risk. It's a very poverty-based way of thinking. I have no control over what he thinks and little if any over what he does.</p><p></p><p>My hope is that this "job" will be a positive experience. Maybe he will be motivated by this "success" and seek more of it. That is the prayer. Certainly anything would be better than sitting in his room on his phone.</p><p>Thank you newstart. I have seen this too. I know I've written it a hundred times but in my work in prison for a few years I worked in a reception center, screening newly arriving prisoners for mental illness. I saw that there were massive numbers of 20 to 29 year olds and then, very few older than 30. For every man over 30 there were 5 o4 6 younger men. Many of these men were parole violators. I would say the majority.</p><p></p><p>I would ask the men over 30, why aren't you coming back so often? And the answer to a man, was "<em>it's not fun anymore.</em>" You see, for younger men even a reception center locked up almost 24 hours a day in a cell, can be fun. They lay back. They scream. They party. They read. They eat. After being on the run on drugs, they come to prison, emaciated. They eat and rest and recuperate.</p><p></p><p>And then, it gets old.</p><p></p><p>My son does not find homelessness and street life fun anymore. Partly it's that he is using less marijuana. He is feeling the discomfort now. He didn't before. Not so much. When he wanted to come home this time, I asked him why. He answered: <em>I can't find anywhere safe. </em></p><p><em></em></p><p>In his imagination even a few days before, it would have been an adventure. I guess this is positive. If, and only if, he follows through with taking responsibility.</p><p>Yes. It sure is. Thank you TL.</p><p>Thank you JP. I don't feel strong. But I must be. I am really grateful for your words. And thank you for the vote of confidence in my son. I think he is strong. But wow. What a different perspective. Glass half full. Thank you so much for that.</p><p></p><p>These (adult) kids are just so stoooopid.</p><p></p><p>I will need to practice that. Confidence in him. There's been so much water under the bridge. Hard, hard, hard. You know how it is. It's hard to not live from fear and negativity. It takes courage.</p><p></p><p>Thank you so much for your kind words and support, everybody. What would I do without you?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 752565, member: 18958"] Yes, Busy. He knows he can earn money without it affecting his SSI/SDI. I think he can earn close to $1000 a month. But he does not want Social Security to know that he is able to work. He fears loss of the benefit. He thinks if he demonstrates capacity he is at risk. It's a very poverty-based way of thinking. I have no control over what he thinks and little if any over what he does. My hope is that this "job" will be a positive experience. Maybe he will be motivated by this "success" and seek more of it. That is the prayer. Certainly anything would be better than sitting in his room on his phone. Thank you newstart. I have seen this too. I know I've written it a hundred times but in my work in prison for a few years I worked in a reception center, screening newly arriving prisoners for mental illness. I saw that there were massive numbers of 20 to 29 year olds and then, very few older than 30. For every man over 30 there were 5 o4 6 younger men. Many of these men were parole violators. I would say the majority. I would ask the men over 30, why aren't you coming back so often? And the answer to a man, was "[I]it's not fun anymore.[/I]" You see, for younger men even a reception center locked up almost 24 hours a day in a cell, can be fun. They lay back. They scream. They party. They read. They eat. After being on the run on drugs, they come to prison, emaciated. They eat and rest and recuperate. And then, it gets old. My son does not find homelessness and street life fun anymore. Partly it's that he is using less marijuana. He is feeling the discomfort now. He didn't before. Not so much. When he wanted to come home this time, I asked him why. He answered: [I]I can't find anywhere safe. [/I] In his imagination even a few days before, it would have been an adventure. I guess this is positive. If, and only if, he follows through with taking responsibility. Yes. It sure is. Thank you TL. Thank you JP. I don't feel strong. But I must be. I am really grateful for your words. And thank you for the vote of confidence in my son. I think he is strong. But wow. What a different perspective. Glass half full. Thank you so much for that. These (adult) kids are just so stoooopid. I will need to practice that. Confidence in him. There's been so much water under the bridge. Hard, hard, hard. You know how it is. It's hard to not live from fear and negativity. It takes courage. Thank you so much for your kind words and support, everybody. What would I do without you? [/QUOTE]
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