Im not even sure where to begin. Our 22 yr old daughter lives with us with her 3 yr old and new born (3 1/2 weeks old). She has history of talking to several guys via social media/ face time and has some attraction to the "bad boys" gang and drug dealers that don't have jobs, cars or a place of their own to call home, usually lives with a family member. The baby daddy is not in the picture and she has seen many guys even while pregnant. These guys all seem to be very manipulative and seems that she lets them control her. Anyway, after she had the baby, at about only 10 days old, she must have met a new guy. She told us she was going to a friends house and would be back in couple hours. She didn't come home for 4 days! No communication as to if she and the kids were OK or were they even where. I finally tried to call and text her to ask what was going on. She finally responded then that very night asked if we would watch the kids for a couple hours. Of coarse, I said yes, as I had not seen them and was worried sick. She said shed be home by midnight and didn't show up til after 1:30am; after I called to see where she was. She said she fell asleep! She came home and I asked her who the guy was and she told me a name I hadn't heard before, and I said how did you meet him and is that where you've been all week? She said yes, like no big deal. The kids were asleep and I let her know I was happy she was home and we would talk in the morning. She was gone in the morning, left about 3am with the sleeping babies. I was devastated all over again to wake up to them gone again. She wouldn't answer my calls or text, finally she responded and I asked her why she didn't let them just stay all night in stead of dragging them out in the middle of the night, she said, I wasn't thinking. I said you knew damn well when you came home you were leaving again, why didn't you say something then? She just said sorry, your right. We don't really know anything about this guy that she has been with, with our grandchildren for the past 2 weeks. She said that hes not ready to meet us. I asked her how do you meet a guy on line and next day go practically move in with him, with your 3 yr old and brand new baby!! She keeps telling me it fine, I'm not believing it!! All we know is this guy that she has told me is that he doesn't have a current job, but when he does work, its odd jobs out of state? He doesn't have a car, he lives with his mom, hes 38 yrs old. and he has a 2 year old that apparently the mama doesn't let him see often. I found out today he is apparently a gang member. She says they want to move out of state, I asked her how on earth can you meet someone that can totally alienate you from your family and friends. Not to mention the kids, I feel that they are not safe. The 3 yr old has been with us a majority of the time and we are very close to the 3 yr old, haven't had time to bond with the new baby yet, tho we love her too! She has let us keep the 3 yr old a few times and on the weekend. He has told me that he doesn't like mommy's new friend, who he calls "the guy". The last time he was here, he didn't want to leave with her, ran to his room and onto his bed crying "I don't want to go with mommy, I want to stay here!" I had to hold it together and let him know it'd be OK, and get him in the car. I asked her if this was as hard on her as on us, she just said "not really" ????? When she let me talk with him on the phone last night, I asked him how he was and if he was happy, he said "NO Grammy! I want to come home!!" and started to cry. My heart is so crushed. I'm truly afraid for their safety, but have no clue as to where they are, she will only tell me the city. I'm afraid to call CPS as she will just disappear and we will never see them again. I talked with a lawyer today to see if we have any rights and he said unless there is a history of drugs/ arrests / CPS reports, etc. that we really don't have anything to base our case on. I have been documenting for the past 2 years all the times when she goes a-wall or she does things that show that she is not putting her son first. The lawyer said to keep taking notes and unfortunately, we cant do anything till something bad happens. There is SO much more to this story that I haven't mentioned, I just wanted to put this out there to see if anyone has any words of wisdom for us. I love my grand son and new baby so much that I just cant do anything that might push her away more. I'm trying to keep line of communication open, I just don't understand whats happening.