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<blockquote data-quote="Betty Boop Anna" data-source="post: 710310" data-attributes="member: 21622"><p>Yes we have practically been raising our grandson. He is the light of my world!! We haven't even been given the chance to bond with the new baby. She let me talk to him on the phone Monday night and when I asked how he was doing and if he having a good time, he answered " No Grammy, I want to come home" and started to cry. its really ripping my heart out! I called her yesterday to see how all is going. the baby has had a clogged tear duct and last Wed I told her she should have it checked out and she said its fine. We saw her on sat and it was swollen shut and draining a copper liquid, I told her again that it needed to be checked. Sunday we saw her when she came to dinner and to take the 3 yr old, and the eye was still swollen shut and our daughter in law was here and cleaned it for her, and saw it was actually bleeding. She told her to see the DR as soon as possible. Tuesday she finally took her to the Dr and they sent her to see a eye specialist. She wouldn't share with me what the specialist said, only that they gave her drops for her eye. I called yesterday and she wouldn't let me talk to the 3 ry old, and tonight I called and was aloud to talk with him. He told me right away that he wanted to come home. I just don't know what to say, I told him to ask his mommy, maybe they can come soon. What the heck!!!</p><p>I found out yesterday threw her Facebook, the guys Facebook page and its not good! He is a gang member and the stuff on his page is pretty encrypted with gang slang that I don't understand. I believe that he has some sort of control over her. She is totally non emotional with me and says they are fine. </p><p>I asked her if we could have the 3 ry old for a few days over the weekend and some time over the next couple weeks as I'm on vacation for 2 weeks. All she will say is "we'll see"</p><p>I don't even know where she is to tell CPS where she is. I have thought about getting a tracking device to stick under her car next time she shows up so that we can maybe get a location. what do you think?</p><p>Also, We have bailed her out financially several times over the past year, including getting her car out of repossession. I know we shouldn't have done that, but I couldn't see a single mom without a car! I now know that was the worst thing we could do. but its done now. We did it under the circumstances that we did her taxes and her return be deposited into our account to cover her fees. Along with when she was to get her disability, for time off with the baby, that we would handle it to be sure she paid her bills with it and also to be sure she paid us back. She agreed to the arrangement. Now, that she is with this guy, she has been very evasive about paying anything, in fact she canceled her EDD card and ordered a new one. It hasn't arrived yet and I have had all our mail diverted to a PO box. I'm sure this guy just wants to suck her dry of any money she has, she is planning on going back to work in couple weeks and he doesn't have a current job. </p><p>Any suggestions as to what to say to her or the 3 yr old. Is there anything I can say? What do I say to the CPS people,,,,I work in a school and see CPS come all the time. unless there is grave danger, the kids are never removed from the parent. I really don't know the dangers of the situation she is in, but I have a gut feeling its very bad. I know the minute she finds out CPS has been called on her, we will never see her or the babies again! The problem is that she continues to say everything is fine! I have asked her if we could meet this guy, but she says hes not ready,,,,, Really!?!?! I have a few questions for him! I'm sure he is well aware of what he is doing, and she is so blinded or maybe she is being threatened by him, I don't know. </p><p>I'm so beside myself, I just don't know what to do.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Betty Boop Anna, post: 710310, member: 21622"] Yes we have practically been raising our grandson. He is the light of my world!! We haven't even been given the chance to bond with the new baby. She let me talk to him on the phone Monday night and when I asked how he was doing and if he having a good time, he answered " No Grammy, I want to come home" and started to cry. its really ripping my heart out! I called her yesterday to see how all is going. the baby has had a clogged tear duct and last Wed I told her she should have it checked out and she said its fine. We saw her on sat and it was swollen shut and draining a copper liquid, I told her again that it needed to be checked. Sunday we saw her when she came to dinner and to take the 3 yr old, and the eye was still swollen shut and our daughter in law was here and cleaned it for her, and saw it was actually bleeding. She told her to see the DR as soon as possible. Tuesday she finally took her to the Dr and they sent her to see a eye specialist. She wouldn't share with me what the specialist said, only that they gave her drops for her eye. I called yesterday and she wouldn't let me talk to the 3 ry old, and tonight I called and was aloud to talk with him. He told me right away that he wanted to come home. I just don't know what to say, I told him to ask his mommy, maybe they can come soon. What the heck!!! I found out yesterday threw her Facebook, the guys Facebook page and its not good! He is a gang member and the stuff on his page is pretty encrypted with gang slang that I don't understand. I believe that he has some sort of control over her. She is totally non emotional with me and says they are fine. I asked her if we could have the 3 ry old for a few days over the weekend and some time over the next couple weeks as I'm on vacation for 2 weeks. All she will say is "we'll see" I don't even know where she is to tell CPS where she is. I have thought about getting a tracking device to stick under her car next time she shows up so that we can maybe get a location. what do you think? Also, We have bailed her out financially several times over the past year, including getting her car out of repossession. I know we shouldn't have done that, but I couldn't see a single mom without a car! I now know that was the worst thing we could do. but its done now. We did it under the circumstances that we did her taxes and her return be deposited into our account to cover her fees. Along with when she was to get her disability, for time off with the baby, that we would handle it to be sure she paid her bills with it and also to be sure she paid us back. She agreed to the arrangement. Now, that she is with this guy, she has been very evasive about paying anything, in fact she canceled her EDD card and ordered a new one. It hasn't arrived yet and I have had all our mail diverted to a PO box. I'm sure this guy just wants to suck her dry of any money she has, she is planning on going back to work in couple weeks and he doesn't have a current job. Any suggestions as to what to say to her or the 3 yr old. Is there anything I can say? What do I say to the CPS people,,,,I work in a school and see CPS come all the time. unless there is grave danger, the kids are never removed from the parent. I really don't know the dangers of the situation she is in, but I have a gut feeling its very bad. I know the minute she finds out CPS has been called on her, we will never see her or the babies again! The problem is that she continues to say everything is fine! I have asked her if we could meet this guy, but she says hes not ready,,,,, Really!?!?! I have a few questions for him! I'm sure he is well aware of what he is doing, and she is so blinded or maybe she is being threatened by him, I don't know. I'm so beside myself, I just don't know what to do. [/QUOTE]
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