So much has happened as far as trying to get support for V, I'm not sure where to start. I can' remember how much or how little I have shared, but since school started and since the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified diagnosis, I have tried to get help from the school. It has been a whole waiting game, people are all very friendly and smilly but nothing gets done unless I or the K-teacher puts a foot down. It took over 2 weeks for the Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) specialist to come to V's class and observe. Now, she says she does not need to be there for the 504 meeting we have been trying to schedule for almost 2 months... I replied that I need her at the meeting and we svheduled for next week so she can make it. Will she show... I don't know. Guidance Counselor has yet to tell me who will attend the meeting. The whole thing is ridiculous. They refuse to provide Speech since Auditory Processing Disorders (APD) is not recognized in NC... The k-teacher is furious about it! She tells me V really needs the services. Right now, I have Sweet Pea's daycare staff take V out of school 2x a week for private speech. I told the school that I will not ignore my son's issue and I will make sure he gets the help he deserves no matter what. Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) said that V indeed has significant issues related to Auditory Processing Disorders (APD) and she is trying to follow a plan that suits V. V shuts down when it's hard, so she has to be very encouraging and give him lots of opportunity for success. She was surprised that V still does not know all of his letters. Which I know is an issue. I have called an advocacy center and their opinion: forget the 504 plan (which is not in place yet anyway) and demand an IEP. They say that I have an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) report from the BEST source and the school cannot ignore it and does not even need to do further testing. According to the advocacy center, the school sure cannot pretend to be able to collect more info than this university program. According to them, I need to write a letter and change the topic of next Monday's meeting... I have e-mailed the k-teacher (since she is 200%) on my side and want to have her opinion. I'll see her this friday after school. The k-teacher was able to obtain a FM system and she is getting V used to it. Slow and easy is her approach. A bit to early to tell if it helps. But again, administration was claiming at first that there was no FM system in the county, therefor V had to do without it. The whole thing is making me sick. Today, Speech Language Pathologist (SLP) who also treat Sweet Pea told me that this morning V was late for his session. the school could not find V, it took them 20 minutes to finally find him and give him to the daycare staff member!! How ridiculous. I had writen a letter stating when V had to be ready for pick up. They know but obviously could care less. What other explanation? Sure the k-teacher was abscent today, but it still should not prevent timely pick up when both classroom and administration are aware of the schedule. I've just read V's mid-term report and it is so-so. He needs improvement in both "writes simple stories" and "reads or begins to read". The comments were: needs to work on decoding 3 letter words, control pencil when he slows down and tries, V has on and off days. Most days he is a really hard worker. Impressed with how many letters and sounds he knows. K-teacher is always encouraging and keeps the child's challenges in mind when she gages the child's work. Even though she is nice in her comments, it would seem that V is not quite where he should be academically. Should I proceed with 504 meeting as scheduled and change it to an IEP later on (maybe in January) or should I listen to the advocacy center and go for a fight now. Keep in mind that the center does not personnally know the case, all they really know is Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD)-not otherwise specified diagnosis and difficulties at school. It is really stressing me. I'm not even afraid of fighting (I would not hesitate a second if it were work related) but it's hard to make a decision when I feel so much in the dark.