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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 66061" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Dara, you mentioned "drastic change in his behaviour" - could you be specific? You've got me worried...</p><p></p><p>The fly thing - difficult child 1 was terrified of animals - ANY animals. Except, as he got a little older, birds. They were the key to unlock his phobia.</p><p></p><p>Nothing you can do about something so disruptive, except support him. We'd be at the beach playing and someone would go past walking their dog. difficult child 1 would get hysterical and the dog owners would get defensive, or rude, because this kid was panicking at the sight of THEIR dog (not allowed on the beach during summer daytime, but who obeys THAT law?). People would say, "Don't try to shield him from the dog, he's got to get used to seeing a dog, the world is full of dogs." Or they'd say, "How did you manage to fill that kid with so much fear? Get a life!"</p><p></p><p>Some people really don't WANT to understand. And of course, we had no idea there was anything wrong with difficult child 1, we were as baffled as others. He'd never had an incident with a dog that we knew of, he was as bad with kittens or newborn puppies. Anything furry, now I think about it. I don't remember any problem with small lizards or bugs, although he was always nervous around them.</p><p></p><p>We were on holiday in Greece when he was 6 and a bee flew into the car. The kids were apprehensive about the risk of being stung and easy child was telling the bee, "Shoo! get out of the car!" and difficult child 1 said, "Don't be silly, it's a Greek bee, it doesn't understand English!"</p><p></p><p>About not wanting to get out of the cot - you've done everything suggested, Dara, and he's still not ready. if this means you have to wait until he's being toilet-trained, or he's too big to fit, then so be it. He can't stay in the cot forever, one day he will realise he's outgrown it.</p><p></p><p>If it's the sense of being confined and feeling safe, what about a mosquito net? The kind you hang from a hoop in the ceiling? Or a home-made canopy? Ikea has some interesting things in this line as well, like a mini-tent that goes over a toddler bed. Do you have Ikea near you? If so, take him there to see how he reacts to the kiddie furniture. He might find something there that rings his bells. And from my experience, ringing his bells is a GOOD thing.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 66061, member: 1991"] Dara, you mentioned "drastic change in his behaviour" - could you be specific? You've got me worried... The fly thing - difficult child 1 was terrified of animals - ANY animals. Except, as he got a little older, birds. They were the key to unlock his phobia. Nothing you can do about something so disruptive, except support him. We'd be at the beach playing and someone would go past walking their dog. difficult child 1 would get hysterical and the dog owners would get defensive, or rude, because this kid was panicking at the sight of THEIR dog (not allowed on the beach during summer daytime, but who obeys THAT law?). People would say, "Don't try to shield him from the dog, he's got to get used to seeing a dog, the world is full of dogs." Or they'd say, "How did you manage to fill that kid with so much fear? Get a life!" Some people really don't WANT to understand. And of course, we had no idea there was anything wrong with difficult child 1, we were as baffled as others. He'd never had an incident with a dog that we knew of, he was as bad with kittens or newborn puppies. Anything furry, now I think about it. I don't remember any problem with small lizards or bugs, although he was always nervous around them. We were on holiday in Greece when he was 6 and a bee flew into the car. The kids were apprehensive about the risk of being stung and easy child was telling the bee, "Shoo! get out of the car!" and difficult child 1 said, "Don't be silly, it's a Greek bee, it doesn't understand English!" About not wanting to get out of the cot - you've done everything suggested, Dara, and he's still not ready. if this means you have to wait until he's being toilet-trained, or he's too big to fit, then so be it. He can't stay in the cot forever, one day he will realise he's outgrown it. If it's the sense of being confined and feeling safe, what about a mosquito net? The kind you hang from a hoop in the ceiling? Or a home-made canopy? Ikea has some interesting things in this line as well, like a mini-tent that goes over a toddler bed. Do you have Ikea near you? If so, take him there to see how he reacts to the kiddie furniture. He might find something there that rings his bells. And from my experience, ringing his bells is a GOOD thing. Marg [/QUOTE]
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