My easy child is sending in her application to a local community college to begin an Early Childhood Education associates program - hopefully this fall or perhaps next spring session. She has sent away to the college where she received her last associates in baking and pastry arts (CIA) to be sent to the cc and has done all the necessary paperwork and phone calling to make this happen. easy child worked at a local bakery for 9 months before deciding to make this career change and began working full time at a local daycare in the position of teacher's assistant. Her employer is very flexible with easy child, really enjoys her and has taken her on as the only full time employee for this summer - iow, he really really wants her there, he even gave her a $50 bonus for coming aboard. She enjoys the kiddos and comes home with the greatest stories. easy child has always amazed me with her drive and focus. When she really wants something, she thinks about it, researches it, and then if it's for her, she goes for it. I am proud of the young woman she's grown into. I wish she'd not gotten in so tight with her new/old boyfriend so fast, but that's another post! And then there is difficult child. Hasn't been able to hold down a job; there is always something wrong with the owner/manager/supervisor/hours/rules, etc. difficult child just doesn't have much drive and/or focus. She tells me she has a job, but it turns out to be a fruitless interview. She doesn't seem to see the value of making the best first impression she can by showering, weating a little makeup, doing her hair nicely and brushing her teeth. She just goes in 'as is' and wonders why they don't hire her. She IS very nice and personable - I've seen her talking with strangers and potential employers. She has personality. She just doesn't come across as polished. She had an interview the other day - fingers crossed she gets this job and it works out! I am ever hopeful for this child of mine. It breaks my heart and is such a disappointment to me (and H) that difficult child is not utilizing the intelligence, compassion and common skills that she possesses in some capacity of value, whether it be at school or a decent job. There are so many "if she would just..." floating through my head. In my endeavor to detach from difficult child, and even from H to a degree, in this past year, I think I've done well in as far as not saying my piece about thier personal choices, what or how they are living their lives, etc. However, it doesn't lessen the breaking of my heart. Just needed to say it.