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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 727309" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Amen to this. It is just another Tuesday. Years back, we had debt collectors calling on the daily. Hubs and I were always on top of our bills and careful about our credit. Rain had managed to get a credit card and had over $2000 owed. I stupidly convinced Hubs to pay it off and had Rain sign a note. BAH! She continued to rack up debt and gave nary a thought to paying us back. It wasn't as if we could afford to go out on a limb for her, either. </p><p><em>Addicts do not care about anything but the next high.</em></p><p>The more we rescue them, the more they use drugs and <strong>use us</strong>.</p><p>We cannot take on their consequences, without consequences of our own. </p><p>It is a vicious, vicious cycle.</p><p>I know it is hard, Lost, but the more you try to save him, the deeper he will plunge into the same ole, same ole.</p><p>It is not that we don't care.</p><p>It is that we do.</p><p>I will write it again.</p><p>Love says NO. No, I will not fund your drug use. No, I will not be your personal maid while you lay about all day. No, I will not spend another precious moment fretting about your future, <em>more than you do</em>.</p><p>That is key, whether it be mental illness or drug haze. </p><p>They need to be able to think of their own future.</p><p>(((HUGS)))</p><p>Leafy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 727309, member: 19522"] Amen to this. It is just another Tuesday. Years back, we had debt collectors calling on the daily. Hubs and I were always on top of our bills and careful about our credit. Rain had managed to get a credit card and had over $2000 owed. I stupidly convinced Hubs to pay it off and had Rain sign a note. BAH! She continued to rack up debt and gave nary a thought to paying us back. It wasn't as if we could afford to go out on a limb for her, either. [I]Addicts do not care about anything but the next high.[/I] The more we rescue them, the more they use drugs and [B]use us[/B]. We cannot take on their consequences, without consequences of our own. It is a vicious, vicious cycle. I know it is hard, Lost, but the more you try to save him, the deeper he will plunge into the same ole, same ole. It is not that we don't care. It is that we do. I will write it again. Love says NO. No, I will not fund your drug use. No, I will not be your personal maid while you lay about all day. No, I will not spend another precious moment fretting about your future, [I]more than you do[/I]. That is key, whether it be mental illness or drug haze. They need to be able to think of their own future. (((HUGS))) Leafy [/QUOTE]
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