A new baby in the home

BusynMember

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Oh, my kids cried it out. Im not Mother Theresa lol. They were just older when they
cried it out so that they knew why they were in a time out as I called it.

My daughter had a real problem when my grandbaby was older and put in her room for a time out. She would cry so hard she would PUKE! Every single time. That made it a real dilemma! But we already had the puke discussion in another thread lol.
 

Pink Elephant

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Yep, cribs and time-outs! Our home, too!

As far as I'm concerned, turning a kid over my knee, warming their bottom, then setting them down inside their crib, was the ultimate in discipline. I'd let them cry-it-out, then when they were done, I'd go into their room, ask them if they were ready to be good, and if their answer was, yes, out they came.
 

Pink Elephant

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I had a changing table for my first babies. I had it in the babies room and later, one in the bathroom when my son was born. I mainly remember this because my (then) hubby was changing him in thbathroom when I heard him calling me to come quickly. I ran in quickly, only to see my son laying on the table and peeing straight into the toilet which was to the side. It was a hilarious site.

I don’t remember my kids getting diaper rash much, maybe a bit of redness a few times. Definitely no bumps or anything like that.

I used Pampers for the first two or three months, then switched to using whatever I had a coupon for or found on sale after that.

I prefer infants in onesies and sleepers and other “baby” clothes.

I used a plastic baby tub inside the big tub. Was always afraid the baby would inadvertently turn on the hot water tap on the kitchen sink.

What did your babies weigh at birth?

My twins were 5’ 10oz and 5’ 13oz

My son was 8’ 14oz

My youngest was 9’ 9oz
LOL, about boys peeing straight up when being changed! I know moms who have been hit!

Loved our old home, because the washing machine and dryer were in the bathroom, and I changed diapers right on top of the washing machine and dryer. So handy. I had a vinyl changing pad that laid-over the tops of both machines, and it was the perfect height for changing. Off with the diapers and straight into the pail. Extra diapers and necessities were stored in the linen closet right inside the bathroom. Easy reach, easy changing, and running water when changing a dirty.

Baby weight for my kids was low 7's to high 8's. Not too big, not too small.

Gosh, your youngest was huge, and your twins so small... goodness me. So fragile at that size.

Yep, had I used disposable diapers, I would have bought the cheapest brand and used rubber pants with them.
 

Pink Elephant

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Pink, about adopting at the baby stage. Sonic came at age two, bonded and is in my heart. Sealed with a kiss. I wouldnt have traded him for any infant.

But usually older child adoptions result in disaster because the child can not bond with the parents. Many are too damaged to be in a family.

It had norhing to do with loving babies. I did love babies, but I could love any child given to me as my own. Age, race, disability doesnt matter. The only reason I tell people not to adopt older kids is that the child usually does not bond with you well and the child, usually abused or neglected, can even be dangerous.

It has nothing to do with just liking babies more. It is the outcome. The infant days fly by....I barely remember them. The days I remember the most are when the child could interact.
There's no denying the fact, the baby stage/age is sweet.

My concern would be bonding, too. Have read that returning older ones to a crib, even diapers and bottles, helps, but honestly, I can't even begin to wrap my head around doing such.

Gosh, do the baby days EVER fly-by so quickly. Too quick. I quite enjoyed having babies in the house.
 

AppleCori

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LOL, about boys peeing straight up when being changed! I know moms who have been hit!

Loved our old home, because the washing machine and dryer were in the bathroom, and I changed diapers right on top of the washing machine and dryer. So handy. I had a vinyl changing pad that laid-over the tops of both machines, and it was the perfect height for changing. Off with the diapers and straight into the pail. Extra diapers and necessities were stored in the linen closet right inside the bathroom. Easy reach, easy changing, and running water when changing a dirty.

Baby weight for my kids was low 7's to high 8's. Not too big, not too small.

Gosh, your youngest was huge, and your twins so small... goodness me. So fragile at that size.

Yep, had I used disposable diapers, I would have bought the cheapest brand and used rubber pants with them.

I found that Pampers were the only brand that didnt leak in the newborn stage, but after the first couple of months, any kind will do fine.

My twins were actually pretty large for twins, especially since they were a month early. Didnt need premie diapers. As you can imagine, my tummy was huge. I was a typical 110 lbs before the pregnancy. People would stop me in public during the last months and ask if i was having multiples. it was obvious. My hubby (at the time) got a picture of me in front of a mostly-eaten turkey and showed it all around, joking that i had eaten the whole thing.

Why did you leave that old home?
 

Pink Elephant

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Wow...so many memories come back in bits and pieces. It was not a good time in my life.

I developed a bleeding ulcer when I was about five months pregnant, so I did not even try breastfeeding because of the medications I was taking. I got a bladder infection at nine months, and Miss KT's father refused to get out of bed and drive me to the hospital, so i drove myself about twenty miles, to the next town, at 3 am. I was working a 48+ hour week, on my feet (in retail), commuting over half an hour, and Miss KT was due Aug 6, right around her father's birthday. When we went out for dinner for his birthday, he told me that if I went into labor, he was finishing his dinner first.

Miss KT was 11 days late, and I had an emergency C-section. Though her father was there, he was not much comfort or support. I got out of the hospital three days later, and he went straight back to work, so it was just me. My mom was a teacher, and it was the first week of school, so she wasn't available to help me, and my in-laws...were very unhappy that Miss KT's father and I were not married at the time I gave birth.

Miss KT was colicky, and I wore her in a little carrier on my chest 24/7. Her pediatrician had no suggestions of things to try. My OB suggested a low iron formula. It worked. My C-section site got infected, and I had additional issues, and ended up staying home on maternity leave about 12 weeks instead of 8.

Looking back, I had post-natal depression, but nobody noticed, myself included. It was not a happy time, I made more money than Miss KT's father so I knew I had to go back to work, work was pressuring me to come back, I wasn't getting a lot of help or cooperation, and we were 300 miles away from family.

Not a lot of good in the experience.
Oh, KT, I am sorry to hear of such. Not easy for you at all.

Sigh... my heart goes out to you over your SO behaviour and comments. Awful, just awful. Going through a pregnancy is not the time to be going in alone.

Wish everyone had family to rely on after the birth of child. Just helps make the transition that much smoother, and of course alleviates much stress and anxiety.

So glad things all worked out considering. :)
 

Pink Elephant

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I found that Pampers were the only brand that didnt leak in the newborn stage, but after the first couple of months, any kind will do fine.

My twins were actually pretty large for twins, especially since they were a month early. Didnt need premie diapers. As you can imagine, my tummy was huge. I was a typical 110 lbs before the pregnancy. People would stop me in public during the last months and ask if i was having multiples. it was obvious. My hubby (at the time) got a picture of me in front of a mostly-eaten turkey and showed it all around, joking that i had eaten the whole thing.

Why did you leave that old home?
Goodness, I can only imagine how big you were for your size! Wow! Actually, double wow (pardon the pun)! LOL! :)

We left our old home for greener pastures (so to speak). The neighbourhood and area was washy, like lower income families, lots of parties, lots of troubles in other homes, noisy, no privacy, and no real quality neighbours we could count on. It was a stepping-stone for us, a way to get our foot in the door before moving onto bigger and better things.

It was a neat old home, with arched doorways, hardwood floors throughout, 9" ceilings, and a full basement (concrete), but so roomy and usable, and it had the most lovely porch leading to the backyard.
 

Pink Elephant

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Sadly my first memories are not really happy ones. To start, I hit my due date which was also my ex's birthday. In the delivery room the nurse told my ex, "how wonderful to get a son for your birthday present" to which he replied, "ya, but I didn't get a birthday cake".

Once I got home my son cried for 48 hours straight. I nursed him, held him, rocked him, nothing would soothe him. I remember my ex coming in not to relieve me but to say "can't you get him to shut up" Yup, he was some kind of special that one. :cautious:

When my son was a week old my mom came and spent a week with us. Those are cherished memories. She gave me all kinds of wonderful advice. She helped with everything. It was hard when she had to go home.

Once my son got settled in he was really a good baby. Hardly ever fussed and was a very happy, chubby little guy.
Moms are the best, aren't they. :)

Loved that I could always count on my mom, and she was always there. I've always said, grandmas make for the best of babysitters!

I was lucky and never had to endure colic and such, and phew, and am I ever grateful for that. Bad enough I remember the witching hour (what I've always referred to it by), but 2am in our house was fill our pants and I need a bottle time! Every... single... night! No kidding! I remember waking so tired I felt sick.

I had a skinny-minny, a chubber, and two regulars. LOL! Sounds like I'm placing an order at a drive-thru! ROFLMAO!!!
 
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Pink Elephant

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Jeeze...makes my ex sound like father of the year. :frown: I too had the kid who cried nonstop when I brought him home (less than 24 hours after the birth - ex's insistence) but at least he finally grabbed a bottle of formula, slapped a nipple on it and stuck it in the child's mouth. 1 oz and he was OUT. He was just starving. I'd been nursing for hours - or trying to - but I just had nothing! I never did get any milk, try as I might for two full months. At least ex had been around babies enough to know how to take care of one and he did help. He just wouldn't hold a job, drink in any semblance of moderation, or stop having sex with other women. :rolleyes:
So glad you got a little support from your ex, Lil. A small consolation for all the headaches, but nevertheless, a little reward that was worth something. :)
 

Pink Elephant

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The hardest part for me with a newborn baby is the absolute exhaustion. No sleep. She didn't cry more than any normal newborn though. I didn't know one could even be so exhausted. Welcome to having newborn babies, lol.

My breaks and escapes, were smoking ciggs and watching talk shows. Montel Williams, Jenny Jones, Ricky Lake, Maury. A few others that escape me. I know, I know, so Peggy Bundy right? But I promise, that was about as close to Peg as I got. Unkike Mrs. Bundy, I actually worked, went to school and cleaned my home (and cooked) lol. - But yeah, smoking ciggs (outside of course) and watching talk shows to death where my breaks, my escape, my me time. I was really into them back then lol. It was the closest thing to reality tv at the time, way before reality tv was even thought of. Well, you had MTV's the real world but that was 7 strangers who were picked to live in a house. They didn't have any reality tv shows were you could actually see into the lives of families.

Ah, how I miss those days. I really miss those talk shows.

Anyway, that's my story and I'm sticking to it.
Oh my goodness, yes! Cigarettes, talk-shows, including Dini Petty (for those that remember), and an occasional visitor for morning coffee. I lived by those things.
 

Pink Elephant

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Oh, for trashy relief, my choice was soap operas. General Hospital was all the rage and I worked in the evening and every we night workers discussed the perils of Luke and Laura all the time. And whispered about the cute men on the show. This talkfest included the interns. Yes, they watched it too.

My son, who was my only child at the time, was a great napper. If I put him down at noon he would sleep until three so, while I did my other stuff, the soaps were on in the back ground until he woke up.
I recall Soaps on television in the background... Soaps such as General Hospital, As the World Turns, The Days of Our Lives, along with a few others I have long-since forgotten.
 

Pink Elephant

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Oops forgot to answer some more questions:

The first year I did not have anyone help me to watch her. That was really rough. But when she got to be 2 , 3 , 4 and older, yes I had help. My grandparents watched her. They loved/love her very much.

and Yes, I had a playpen for her! It was pink, blue and light green. I will never forget. A playpen was an absolute neccessity. My sister in law never used play pens for her kids and it drove me nuts,I didn't understand it. lol. I refused to watch any of the kids without a play pen. Only because I was a worry wart and when I was doing things, I needed to know that my daughter and my niece and nephews were safe and yes, I did do it too for the much needed break sometimes.

For walks, we had the most beautiful neighborhood to walk in. I took her for walks in her stroller very oftenly. To the playground (that same playground I spoke about when you asked about our first loves/boyfriends) and to the shopping center. We did that a lot.
What about didies, Wish, what did you use?
 

AppleCori

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Jeeze...makes my ex sound like father of the year. :frown: I too had the kid who cried nonstop when I brought him home (less than 24 hours after the birth - ex's insistence) but at least he finally grabbed a bottle of formula, slapped a nipple on it and stuck it in the child's mouth. 1 oz and he was OUT. He was just starving. I'd been nursing for hours - or trying to - but I just had nothing! I never did get any milk, try as I might for two full months. At least ex had been around babies enough to know how to take care of one and he did help. He just wouldn't hold a job, drink in any semblance of moderation, or stop having sex with other women. :rolleyes:

That “sex with other women” thing would almost kinda be a deal breaker....
 

Lil

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She would cry so hard she would PUKE! Every single time.

Ugh. My son did that when I put him to bed if he wasn't asleep already. Third time was a charm...for him. He won that battle and I just rocked him to sleep until he was 2!

That “sex with other women” thing would almost kinda be a deal breaker....

Ya think? :p

I guess I missed a question. My son was really little, an ounce under 6 lbs. Littlest baby I'd ever held at the time. He was always 90% for height and 10% for weight. Jabber and I used to joke that our family looked like we ate all the food and didn't give him any. He's still skinny.
 
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