Hi, I found this site yesterday. I'm in Australia but it seems my problem is world wide. I'm at a desperate and very stressed stage in my 8 year struggle with my son. It's a long story, his father and I divorced when he was very young. I was a single parent for a few years until I met my husband. He treated and accepted my son as his own for 13 years, until he started drinking heavily. He physically and verbally abused my son and I the last 12 months of his life. He died due to alcohol abuse 7 years ago. My son never settled, in fact, instead of sticking together he was determined to smoke weed. I sent him to live with his father for a while hoping he'd quit the weed. He didn't. I met someone new and moved in with him and his children about 5 years ago. We let my son move in too. He was warned about bringing drugs to our home. He did it anyway plus stole alcohol and money from us. We kicked him out about 3 years ago. It was a terrible decision but it had to happen. Since then he's nearly gone to jail and continues to smoke. Since he was 16 he has had a violent temper. He's smashed holes in walls, kicked doors in and continually abused me. Looking back I know it's all been drugs. He lives by himself but won't work and won't admit he has a drug problem. Now he wants to move back in I refused. He also asked his father who also refused. We've both been burnt too many times. I visit my son every fortnight and buy him food and help pay his rent. I don't give him cash anymore.I've done everything I could to help him stay housed and fed. But I've been trying to step back and let him get himself right. He has access to a free counselling service near where he lives who specialise in troubled youth with drug problems or depression. He won't go. He refuses to admit he has a problem. My son has been sending me messages full of hate and anger. His favourite is blaming his dead step Dad for his anger and depression.. Telling me I don't give a , with many many sentence enhancers thrown in (swearing). Now he's telling me he might just kill himself....he'll f...ing show me. Now I feel sick because I haven't been able to contact him since yesterday. He's threatened this before. I'm at my wits end. He lives 2 hours away from me. I don't really know what I'm trying to say. I just needed to talk. Thanks for listening.