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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 631365" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>Dalyce,</p><p></p><p>Welcome to the board, and sorry you had to find us. MWM gave you really good advice. I don't have much to add except that you will need personal support. If possible find a group for parents of unstable or mentally ill adult program, or a 12 step program for enabling adults. </p><p>Read Melanie Beatty's book "Co Dependant No more"</p><p>You don't mention how old your son is, but however old he is I'm not sure why you are paying rent or buying food for some one who is abusive to you, which is what you describe. I would strongly suggest you stop rewarding his terrible treatment of you by continuing to support him. IN the long run that is doing him no favors...why would you deliver the message that he can behave like a cur and still get fed and petted? That isn't true in the animal kingdom, and isn't true in the world of adult humans...even for people who had bad childhoods.</p><p>Nelson Mandela had a bad childhood too. </p><p>So did a lot of the parents on the board. </p><p>You don't deserve to be treated this way. </p><p>Start by taking a break from his barrage. Let him now you will not be responding to his texts anymore, but that he can call you once a day this week, and once a week thereafter, at a prescribed time. Block his texts, which are abusive and inappropriate. Make some space from him for yourself. YOu will start to feel better almost immediately.</p><p>This was a bit disjointed, but I hope you can take some steps to disengage with this man who treats you so badly. It doesn't mean you can't have contact with him, only htat you need to set some boundaries.</p><p>So very sorry for your hurting mommy heart.</p><p> Echo</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 631365, member: 17269"] Dalyce, Welcome to the board, and sorry you had to find us. MWM gave you really good advice. I don't have much to add except that you will need personal support. If possible find a group for parents of unstable or mentally ill adult program, or a 12 step program for enabling adults. Read Melanie Beatty's book "Co Dependant No more" You don't mention how old your son is, but however old he is I'm not sure why you are paying rent or buying food for some one who is abusive to you, which is what you describe. I would strongly suggest you stop rewarding his terrible treatment of you by continuing to support him. IN the long run that is doing him no favors...why would you deliver the message that he can behave like a cur and still get fed and petted? That isn't true in the animal kingdom, and isn't true in the world of adult humans...even for people who had bad childhoods. Nelson Mandela had a bad childhood too. So did a lot of the parents on the board. You don't deserve to be treated this way. Start by taking a break from his barrage. Let him now you will not be responding to his texts anymore, but that he can call you once a day this week, and once a week thereafter, at a prescribed time. Block his texts, which are abusive and inappropriate. Make some space from him for yourself. YOu will start to feel better almost immediately. This was a bit disjointed, but I hope you can take some steps to disengage with this man who treats you so badly. It doesn't mean you can't have contact with him, only htat you need to set some boundaries. So very sorry for your hurting mommy heart. Echo [/QUOTE]
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