Hello all -- I haven't been in this forum for months now and I found myself thinking about you all this morning. Wanted to pop in and say "Hello" and share an update from here. A few days ago our son celebrated 4 months clean and sober. Honestly, never thought I'd see the day (haven't seen it since he was 11 or 12). He's moved into clean and sober housing (through which he's made several new clean and sober friends), gotten a job (was working warehouse, now working as a "tree guy" -- cutting down trees -- he likes physical work, says it helps him focus), paying off his fines, refurbishing his relationship with all family members --- parents, siblings, extended family, his ex (they're not together, but are amiable now), and his son (nearly 5 yrs old). Still some kinks to work out in there (after years of tarnishing), but he's genuinely working the program on every level. Honestly, we're shocked. But pleasantly so! What have I learned? Well, a gazillion things. But, most importantly, I've learned never to limit ANYONE'S potential (including my own!). Our hopes and realities may never totally overlap. But........they may intersect at times (even extended times) and bring magnificent forgiveness, gratitude and memorable moments! And that's enough for me today. Our extended family all went to a pro basketball game maybe 10 days ago. As we left our son said, "I can't believe it......... The best night I've had in a long time and......it's with my parents! LOL! Well, we all could not stop laughing, so I asked my son to repeat that on video. He did.........EVIDENCE! LOLOL! Yes, I know this may not last forever. All the more reason to savor it today! Life isn't a given for any of us. Seize the day! I sent you all good vibes and wishes for your hopes to meet your realities this week........even if it's only for a few moments to savor.