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A question to those of you with non grads
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 656560" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I would draw a strict boundary with her. She either graduates or she leaves. She can't just sit home a nd work at McD's, if she does that, for ten hours a week. I am maybe a bad person to answer. I was very strict about diplomas and working. I know I could not have tolerated a non working child with no high school degree living in the house. They help the Special Education kids get the credits needed to graduate, but they do need to put in some effort. As for working, well, cut off the money at eighteen and tell her you're going to. No cell phone. No car. No internet. She needs to help you pay and if she doesn't do school after high school, then she has to help pay the bills.</p><p></p><p>I think I was so strict about this that all of my kids, even the tougher ones, gave me no trouble in this area and all are working hard and self-supporting. some Difficult Child do not want to launch to adulthodo so we have to do what we can to give them an incenive. Unfortunately, a positive incentive usually only works until t he desired object is received so I found myself mostly talking tough. bart did not like to go to school and especially was phobic about PE, although he loves sports. We bargained with the school, who knew he was bright, and if he went to school the amount of days necessary, then he got to skip PE his senior year, which was really nice. He graduated and even started college...unfortunately, as with many of our Difficult Child his mental illness kicked up big time while he was in college so he had to drop out and never went back. But he did get his high school diploma and I'm proud that he has a job with a college grad's salary now. Bart really does have some social issues too and if he can do it so can your daughter. Pep talks along with telling them the consequences for not doing what is expected of all eighteen year olds worked here.</p><p></p><p>Hugs and I wish you luck.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 656560, member: 1550"] I would draw a strict boundary with her. She either graduates or she leaves. She can't just sit home a nd work at McD's, if she does that, for ten hours a week. I am maybe a bad person to answer. I was very strict about diplomas and working. I know I could not have tolerated a non working child with no high school degree living in the house. They help the Special Education kids get the credits needed to graduate, but they do need to put in some effort. As for working, well, cut off the money at eighteen and tell her you're going to. No cell phone. No car. No internet. She needs to help you pay and if she doesn't do school after high school, then she has to help pay the bills. I think I was so strict about this that all of my kids, even the tougher ones, gave me no trouble in this area and all are working hard and self-supporting. some Difficult Child do not want to launch to adulthodo so we have to do what we can to give them an incenive. Unfortunately, a positive incentive usually only works until t he desired object is received so I found myself mostly talking tough. bart did not like to go to school and especially was phobic about PE, although he loves sports. We bargained with the school, who knew he was bright, and if he went to school the amount of days necessary, then he got to skip PE his senior year, which was really nice. He graduated and even started college...unfortunately, as with many of our Difficult Child his mental illness kicked up big time while he was in college so he had to drop out and never went back. But he did get his high school diploma and I'm proud that he has a job with a college grad's salary now. Bart really does have some social issues too and if he can do it so can your daughter. Pep talks along with telling them the consequences for not doing what is expected of all eighteen year olds worked here. Hugs and I wish you luck. [/QUOTE]
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