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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 26362" data-attributes="member: 84"><p><div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> .....and i have even more good news for you. if your son has a legal child support assessment he won't see his tax return unless it exceeds the amount of back child support he owes. the government automatically attaches it just like they do if you have outstanding student loans.</div></div></p><p></p><p>Kris is right. husband was out of work for a long time years ago making it impossible to pay child support for stepgfg during that time. Believe me, they took our taxes til all that money was paid up in full.</p><p></p><p>I've just gotten into practice with telling my kids "no". I've been learning many new ways to say it. lol AND I've learned not to volunteer to do anything. Yep finally learned to keep my mouth shut. lmao</p><p></p><p>easy child has been telling me how horribly her mother in law has hurt her back. Her mother in law is the one who took over for me sitting for grandson Darrin on the nights easy child and her husband both work. Evidently mother in law is in pretty darn bad shape...ruptured disc, horrid pain, ect. Two weeks ago easy child asked if I could watch Darrin 1 night while she worked. I promptly said nope I had a big test. (I did 5 chapters) So for the past couple of weeks all I've heard is how bad her mother in law has it....</p><p></p><p> I keep my big mouth shut. (normally I'd have volunteered to help watch Darrin) I do empathise with easy child's mother in law. Not a fun condition to have. But this is between easy child and the mother in law. Not me. I told easy child back at the beginning of this school quarter that I wasn't sitting for Darrin anymore. easy child took this 3rd shift job knowing full well the problems it causes with babysitting.</p><p></p><p>However I did tell her I would cover if the mother in law needed me to for 2 days during my spring break. No biggie there. I was going to have Darrin sleep over at Nana's house anyway. I can just time it to help easy child and mother in law out at the same time.</p><p></p><p>I discovered quickly, easy child or difficult child, your kids will continue to lean on you as the parent once they leave home if you let them. Not all kids, but most will. easy child did it with me. T is doing his best at present to do it. And I'm already making plans to try to prevent it with N, while still helping her go to school.</p><p></p><p>If you don't want to co-sign for this loan, don't co-sign. You don't need a reason. easy child found out fast I refuse to co-sign for any reason. She was mad and hurt. I just kept repeating if she needed a co-signer then she didn't need the house/car she wanted, nor could she afford it. And I flat out and told her as hard as her Dad and I've had it over the years we never dreamed of asking our parents to co-sign a loan for us. (well husband did, but I wouldn't let him)</p><p></p><p>It didn't take her long to get over it. And eventually she found both a house and a newer car that was within her price range and didn't need a co-signer.</p><p></p><p>Many young people don't realize that their parents didn't start out as comfortable as they are at the time when their kids are leaving home. That alot of hard work and such went in to acheiving that standard of living.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 26362, member: 84"] <div class="ubbcode-block"><div class="ubbcode-header">Quote:</div><div class="ubbcode-body"> .....and i have even more good news for you. if your son has a legal child support assessment he won't see his tax return unless it exceeds the amount of back child support he owes. the government automatically attaches it just like they do if you have outstanding student loans.</div></div> Kris is right. husband was out of work for a long time years ago making it impossible to pay child support for stepgfg during that time. Believe me, they took our taxes til all that money was paid up in full. I've just gotten into practice with telling my kids "no". I've been learning many new ways to say it. lol AND I've learned not to volunteer to do anything. Yep finally learned to keep my mouth shut. lmao easy child has been telling me how horribly her mother in law has hurt her back. Her mother in law is the one who took over for me sitting for grandson Darrin on the nights easy child and her husband both work. Evidently mother in law is in pretty darn bad shape...ruptured disc, horrid pain, ect. Two weeks ago easy child asked if I could watch Darrin 1 night while she worked. I promptly said nope I had a big test. (I did 5 chapters) So for the past couple of weeks all I've heard is how bad her mother in law has it.... I keep my big mouth shut. (normally I'd have volunteered to help watch Darrin) I do empathise with easy child's mother in law. Not a fun condition to have. But this is between easy child and the mother in law. Not me. I told easy child back at the beginning of this school quarter that I wasn't sitting for Darrin anymore. easy child took this 3rd shift job knowing full well the problems it causes with babysitting. However I did tell her I would cover if the mother in law needed me to for 2 days during my spring break. No biggie there. I was going to have Darrin sleep over at Nana's house anyway. I can just time it to help easy child and mother in law out at the same time. I discovered quickly, easy child or difficult child, your kids will continue to lean on you as the parent once they leave home if you let them. Not all kids, but most will. easy child did it with me. T is doing his best at present to do it. And I'm already making plans to try to prevent it with N, while still helping her go to school. If you don't want to co-sign for this loan, don't co-sign. You don't need a reason. easy child found out fast I refuse to co-sign for any reason. She was mad and hurt. I just kept repeating if she needed a co-signer then she didn't need the house/car she wanted, nor could she afford it. And I flat out and told her as hard as her Dad and I've had it over the years we never dreamed of asking our parents to co-sign a loan for us. (well husband did, but I wouldn't let him) It didn't take her long to get over it. And eventually she found both a house and a newer car that was within her price range and didn't need a co-signer. Many young people don't realize that their parents didn't start out as comfortable as they are at the time when their kids are leaving home. That alot of hard work and such went in to acheiving that standard of living. [/QUOTE]
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