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call 911........call 911
Three weeks ago, completely out of the blue I received a text with a picture attachment from Dude. It was of a cards front and it said Happy Fathers Day. Right behind it I received another text, with a picture attachment of the inside of the same card signed by Dude. It was a nice, humurous card about borrowing tools, and putting them back in the right place (you could see the shadows on the wall where the tools were supposed to be correctly put back, and the tools were obviously put back wrong.) This is like DF's shop - outlines of his tools on pegboard, and Dude never putting them back correctly - a bone of contention between the two of them for years.
Dude said simply "What do you think? Pretty funny huh? I wrote him a letter, on college ruled paper, front and 1/2 the back. Do you think he'll read it? I think he hates me."
It's true, the two left each other at the train station with not so much as a nod, but hate? No. DF loves Dude like his own son. Fifteen years of living and raising a difficult child? You either leave or love. But not hate. Dislike for sure, maybe not understand each other. Butt heads for certain.
In contrast Daddy Disney sent a letter by friend to Dudes house a week ago telling Dude he was going to be clean from drugs after jail, wanted him to forget the stuff that he's done to him so far, and if he wasn't 'man' enough to do so - #%_* him -he was done with trying. To recap, he's tried for years to hunt us down and kill us, then Dude looks him up, wants a relationship, he tries within 3 weeks to beat his own son with a ballbat and fists, gives him lessons on how to be a drug dealer, gives him no money, no help, no place to live, advises him to skip probation and that's backfired, asks him to take HIS sentence on his breaking and entering, begs him to bring him money in jail - he does, then when he gets out - comes to his house, throws out his paying room mates, moves in his drug buddies, trashes the house, lets his dog out on purpose to almost get killed, smashes a TV he fixed that he will never be able to replace, tries to beat him up again, gets arrested again, goes to jail, and begs again for money - and now says he wants a relationship - oh and some more money. Dude changed his phone number and told anyone if they gave it to daughter he would not be very happy. And no - he does not want a relationship, and he said the part where the man says "and if you don't want a relationship with me oh well that's because you aren't mature." he said "Wow this guy has issues." I just said "Well it sounds like it huh?" Then he said like the soup Nazi - NO CARD FOR YOU. and laughed. But I'm sure on some level it hurt.
So yeah - THIS was a really nice surprise....and the real cool thing was a call last night.....because the card didn't come - it was mailed Wednesday - but didn't make it. Should come today - but he called to see if DAD liked his card. Then actually talked to DF for about 20 minutes - first time in a long time.
It was a good Father's Day for a man that's waited a LONG time - and deserved it. He was smiling all day today.
...........and what did I get for Mothers Day -----oh that's right - a text with Ouixas picture made out of French Fries. lol -----and I framed it.
Thanks for reading. Maybe our Dude is growing up?
Dude said simply "What do you think? Pretty funny huh? I wrote him a letter, on college ruled paper, front and 1/2 the back. Do you think he'll read it? I think he hates me."
It's true, the two left each other at the train station with not so much as a nod, but hate? No. DF loves Dude like his own son. Fifteen years of living and raising a difficult child? You either leave or love. But not hate. Dislike for sure, maybe not understand each other. Butt heads for certain.
In contrast Daddy Disney sent a letter by friend to Dudes house a week ago telling Dude he was going to be clean from drugs after jail, wanted him to forget the stuff that he's done to him so far, and if he wasn't 'man' enough to do so - #%_* him -he was done with trying. To recap, he's tried for years to hunt us down and kill us, then Dude looks him up, wants a relationship, he tries within 3 weeks to beat his own son with a ballbat and fists, gives him lessons on how to be a drug dealer, gives him no money, no help, no place to live, advises him to skip probation and that's backfired, asks him to take HIS sentence on his breaking and entering, begs him to bring him money in jail - he does, then when he gets out - comes to his house, throws out his paying room mates, moves in his drug buddies, trashes the house, lets his dog out on purpose to almost get killed, smashes a TV he fixed that he will never be able to replace, tries to beat him up again, gets arrested again, goes to jail, and begs again for money - and now says he wants a relationship - oh and some more money. Dude changed his phone number and told anyone if they gave it to daughter he would not be very happy. And no - he does not want a relationship, and he said the part where the man says "and if you don't want a relationship with me oh well that's because you aren't mature." he said "Wow this guy has issues." I just said "Well it sounds like it huh?" Then he said like the soup Nazi - NO CARD FOR YOU. and laughed. But I'm sure on some level it hurt.
So yeah - THIS was a really nice surprise....and the real cool thing was a call last night.....because the card didn't come - it was mailed Wednesday - but didn't make it. Should come today - but he called to see if DAD liked his card. Then actually talked to DF for about 20 minutes - first time in a long time.
It was a good Father's Day for a man that's waited a LONG time - and deserved it. He was smiling all day today.
...........and what did I get for Mothers Day -----oh that's right - a text with Ouixas picture made out of French Fries. lol -----and I framed it.
Thanks for reading. Maybe our Dude is growing up?
