I was digging around on facebook for old friends and remembered an old friend and neighbor of my family. He had a page so I sent an invite, then decided to just call him since I know both him and his wife and we were neighbors for several years, went to high school together and so forth. Actually, he and his wife double-dated with difficult child's father and me the night difficult child was conceived. They had their first baby while I was still pregnant and I babysat her a couple of times to give them a night out alone. When the baby was about 3-4yo she complained about her arm being sore and was holding it funny, the pediatrician said he didn't see anything wrong. After a couple of visits with the dr saying this but the mom refusing to believe that her child was doing this for attention, she started taking her to specialists who ultimately found a brain tumour. It was a rare kind and at the underside of the brain, requiring a special team of doctors to be assembled in TX for a surgery to horrid too describe. She survived and recuperrated and apparently did fine, living a normal life from 4-11 yo. I just learned tonight that at 11yo, symptoms came back and the doctors found the tumour was back and that it was cancerous. They did 6 surgeries and 8 chemo treatments in 4 years. She lost her battle in Nov., at age 15 yo. Even with the struggles of our difficult child's, may we remember that other children strugle with even bigger problems and more pain. And some parents have a pain even bigger than ours. I can honestly say that after learning this and watching the video tribute the father told me about online, I am glad that my son is alive and still has some future and I still have some hope and I can still hug him, fuss at him, smile and listen to him, even if he is incarcerated, he will come home. I took my son to visit when he was 4yo and the girl was about 7 mos older so she still had the "halo" around her head and a brace on her neck. She was so sweet and brave and never complained. This has really thrown me for a loop.