A very good day

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by antsmom, Jun 11, 2007.

  1. Sunlight

    Sunlight Active Member

    Yesterday was a dream day. the best ever with ant in a long long time.

    I had gone and brought Kaleb down for the week because I was in his area this past weekend. we got in so late, I kept kaleb at boyfriend's for sat night. Ant walked to church and met boyfriend, Kaleb and myself there sunday morning. kaleb saw his dad and squealed and ran to ant. they kissed and hugged and ant carried Kaleb into church. My heart was bursting. had someone told me last year that one day my son and grandson would be sitting in church with me...I would have not believed it.

    ant held Kaleb all thru the Mass. I was thinking I had no sitter lined up for the week while ant worked and I work. boyfriend whispered to me to look a few rows up. there sat a gray haired couple, boyfriend said they run a daycare two blocks from ant's apartment.

    after church we went there and talked to them. a nice home, lots of toys and kid ready. she said she has done this for 30 yrs. she has 5 kids off and on.

    we agreed to have kaleb there this week. we then went back and got boyfriend's boat and took ant and kaleb out for a ride down the rivers. ant was thrilled as was kaleb. neither had been on a big boat before. unfortunately the boat broke down mid river and we had to be towed back to the dock. (boyfriend just got this thing out of the shop.) boyfriend and ant worked together to get it lined up, with ant in the river wading along and pulling this boat, and boyfriend using a winch to get it on the trailer again.

    after that we went back to boyfriend's for a cookout and kaleb took a nice nap. ant was perfect. I had tears in my eyes most of the day watching boyfriend and ant inter-act and ant fathering kaleb.

    at night I took ant and kaleb back to ant's place. boyfriend lives only a mile away. ant has his place very neat and tidy, just a livingroom, kitchen and bedroom with a small bath. Ant said he had something for me to take out. he got a big bag and went the refrig and loaded the bag with all the beer in there (about a case). he said he doesnt want it there to tempt him. I was shocked he would give up his stash! when I left, ant took kaleb for a long walk and then ant bathed kaleb, got his cereal for the night, read him a book and got him to bed. I talked to kaleb right before he went to sleep. luckily ant had no women over.

    this morning, I rode down there to take kaleb for his first day of daycare. ant met me on the sidewalk. kaleb had been fed breakfast, was dressed, and ant had packed him a lunch bag (even wrote his name on the bag.) They both seemed to be so happy! kaleb and I went to the sitters and he ran under my arm and joined the other kids to play. after work, ant will go get him and walk him back to the apartment and care for him for the evening.

    so normal for some, so miraculous for us!

  2. hearts and roses

    hearts and roses Mind Reader

    I'm so happy for you - and ant! {{hugs}}
  3. Just keep swimming

    Just keep swimming New Member

    Oh, your post brought tears to my eyes. What HUGE accomplishments. Prayers for continued success!!!!

  4. Big Bad Kitty

    Big Bad Kitty lolcat

    I had read that you went to church with And & Kaleb in another post, but felt it was inappropriate to respond to you in that post. I am glad you posted it again. I was absolutely beaming when I read it. How wonderful that must have felt for you.

    Journal this, if you haven't already. This is one for the memory banks. Kaleb will love to hear this years from now.
  5. WhymeMom?

    WhymeMom? No real answers to life..

    <span style='font-family: Comic Sans MS'>FIRST dream day.....hope there are many more to come......</span>

    :thumbsup: :salute: :kisses:
  6. Nancy

    Nancy Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Wow Janet, it's remarkable how normal he can be when clear drom drugs ansd alcohol. I hope he continues to fight those deamons and win.

    by the way I must have missed the post about how you and boyfriend got back together? How did that happen and how are you feeling about the whole thing?

  7. amstrong

    amstrong New Member

    What a great post to find this morning! I was really touched when i read it. I know you were probably onthe edge of tears all day. This really warmed my heart.

    It is so great when our difficult child's are the warm, caring individuals we know they can be.

  8. Sheila

    Sheila Moderator

    Sweet memories! :smile:
  9. saving grace

    saving grace New Member

    Great post Janet, thank you as usual for sharing. I know what those days are like, you just want them to last forever. The best part of those days for me is when I lay my head down at night the feeling of peace that comes over me as I close my eyes.
    I know Ant has it in him, he will get there, I know he will.

  10. rejectedmom

    rejectedmom New Member

    Beautiful Post janet. Treasure the memory. I will contiue to pray that Ant stay on the straight and narrow. -RM
  11. everywoman

    everywoman Active Member

    Wow. Great post. I'm so glad he did something good. It serves as hope.
  12. flutterbee

    flutterbee Guest

    How wonderful. Thank you for sharing.
  13. TerryJ2

    TerryJ2 Well-Known Member

    Oh, Janet, what a lovely day and lovely post. I've got my fingers crossed for ant's continued success, and Kaleb's and your continuing happiness.
  14. nlg319

    nlg319 New Member

    Absolutely beautiful...I'm so happy that you were able to share that special time with all of them together!
  15. judi

    judi Active Member

    Aw Janet - thanks so much for sharing that wonderful story! That is so touching. My difficult child was over today to see his son - he changed him, fed him, etc while I mowed the lawn.
  16. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    I loved reading this post! I'm so glad you had this day-may there be many more to follow. :flower:
  17. SunnyFlorida

    SunnyFlorida Active Member

    fantastic Janet.... I'm so very happy for you.

    This is truly a normal moment.
  18. busywend

    busywend Well-Known Member

    Enjoy the good, but do not be surprised by the bad. That seems to be the only way with Ant.

    Glad you had a good day!
  19. crazymama30

    crazymama30 Active Member

    :bravo: :smile: :bravo:

    Your positive stories give us with younger difficult children hope. Thank you.
  20. Kjs

    Kjs Guest

    So glad you had such a wonderful day. Hopefully it will be the first of many, many more.