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A View From The Other Side (Fairly Long)
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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 686080" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>Many peoples' aversion to 12 step programs is the religious aspect of it. I am an atheist, and I have done plenty of meetings. And it was always uncomfortable for me, especially if it got out that I was an atheist. They do have alternatives, but they are few and far between. You think it might be a problem with the "higher power" part? Having a sponsor is important. Somebody with some solid clean time, but not clean for so long as to have lost touch with what he is going through. He would certainly benefit from it, and it isn't like the church has the concept of sponsorship trade marked. Even most of the alternative programs do sponsors. </p><p></p><p>Everything is exciting in the early stages of sobriety. You get a kind of high from finally beating something that has controlled and destroyed your life for so long. It is scary at first, and it is easy to become too complacent. Thinking you got it by the short and curlies, only to find that you don't have a proper support system set up. Then, the first emotional event you run into is that much more dangerous. </p><p></p><p>A sponsor doesn't need to be a part of a program, though. A sponsor is simply somebody that has been there, and understands the need for support. Family and friends are not a good idea, for obvious reasons. He could attend a few meetings specifically to find a sponsor, and remain with that sponsor even without the meetings. They would usually advise against stopping the meetings, but some support is better than no support. As good as you feel the first few months, you will run into the same issues that contributed largely to the reason you used in the first place. And if you have the same set up as you did that time, you are likely going to fall. There must be positive change. It isn't an event, either. You aren't "just clean". You are working towards a sober life, and the more support you have towards that end, the better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 686080, member: 20267"] Many peoples' aversion to 12 step programs is the religious aspect of it. I am an atheist, and I have done plenty of meetings. And it was always uncomfortable for me, especially if it got out that I was an atheist. They do have alternatives, but they are few and far between. You think it might be a problem with the "higher power" part? Having a sponsor is important. Somebody with some solid clean time, but not clean for so long as to have lost touch with what he is going through. He would certainly benefit from it, and it isn't like the church has the concept of sponsorship trade marked. Even most of the alternative programs do sponsors. Everything is exciting in the early stages of sobriety. You get a kind of high from finally beating something that has controlled and destroyed your life for so long. It is scary at first, and it is easy to become too complacent. Thinking you got it by the short and curlies, only to find that you don't have a proper support system set up. Then, the first emotional event you run into is that much more dangerous. A sponsor doesn't need to be a part of a program, though. A sponsor is simply somebody that has been there, and understands the need for support. Family and friends are not a good idea, for obvious reasons. He could attend a few meetings specifically to find a sponsor, and remain with that sponsor even without the meetings. They would usually advise against stopping the meetings, but some support is better than no support. As good as you feel the first few months, you will run into the same issues that contributed largely to the reason you used in the first place. And if you have the same set up as you did that time, you are likely going to fall. There must be positive change. It isn't an event, either. You aren't "just clean". You are working towards a sober life, and the more support you have towards that end, the better. [/QUOTE]
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