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A View From The Other Side (Fairly Long)
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<blockquote data-quote="Sister's Keeper" data-source="post: 686088" data-attributes="member: 20051"><p>Oh gah, Darkwing, that was hard to read.</p><p></p><p>You are my sister and I. Bio mom was, and still is an addict. We were removed from her for neglect when I was in 3rd and Sis in 2nd grade. I went to live with my father and stepmother (we have different fathers), Sis with maternal aunt, also an addict, who, essentially, just sent her back to bio mom.</p><p></p><p>Parade of men in and out of the house, abuse, drugs, booze. Fast forward years later, Sis is an addict in prison, and I am raising her 3 kids. ...and I have survivor's guilt, because I was fortunate enough to have a father. </p><p></p><p>I think a lot of the reason that we are so hurt by our loved one's behavior is that we know who they really are under the addiction. We know, and love, and mourn the loss of that person. I know my sister isn't a bad person, I know under the drugs that sweet, sensitive girl still exists. </p><p></p><p>I know that she is ashamed of the things she has done in the name of addiction (heroin) I know that she does not want to live the way she is. I also know that I can't help her.</p><p></p><p>Lord knows, I have tried. I am drained financially and emotionally. I am in protection mode now. I have to protect myself so I am emotionally strong and able to protect these children. </p><p></p><p>What I hope, and maybe we all hope, is that the addicts that we love understand that we do love them, very much.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Sister's Keeper, post: 686088, member: 20051"] Oh gah, Darkwing, that was hard to read. You are my sister and I. Bio mom was, and still is an addict. We were removed from her for neglect when I was in 3rd and Sis in 2nd grade. I went to live with my father and stepmother (we have different fathers), Sis with maternal aunt, also an addict, who, essentially, just sent her back to bio mom. Parade of men in and out of the house, abuse, drugs, booze. Fast forward years later, Sis is an addict in prison, and I am raising her 3 kids. ...and I have survivor's guilt, because I was fortunate enough to have a father. I think a lot of the reason that we are so hurt by our loved one's behavior is that we know who they really are under the addiction. We know, and love, and mourn the loss of that person. I know my sister isn't a bad person, I know under the drugs that sweet, sensitive girl still exists. I know that she is ashamed of the things she has done in the name of addiction (heroin) I know that she does not want to live the way she is. I also know that I can't help her. Lord knows, I have tried. I am drained financially and emotionally. I am in protection mode now. I have to protect myself so I am emotionally strong and able to protect these children. What I hope, and maybe we all hope, is that the addicts that we love understand that we do love them, very much. [/QUOTE]
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