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<blockquote data-quote="DarkwingPsyduck" data-source="post: 686255" data-attributes="member: 20267"><p>You should be guarded. If you weren't, people may start to question your sanity. You are not wrong for feeling the way you feel. Those feelings are a result of his actions, not yours. His choices, not yours. He cannot truly appreciate the very real effect his actions have on those around him. Active addicts are very similar to sociopaths. Even if the addict never showed any sociopathic tendencies BEFORE the drugs, they will show them WITH the drugs. You'd have to ask "What is different this time than the other times?". If the answer is "nothing", then you'd be a fool for getting your hopes up that THIS will be any different. That is how rational people think. And it serves us well. None of us looked forward to finally facing the music, but it is necessary to do so. To stop the lies, and the excuses, and the justifications. It is hard to deal with shame, and the shame that I felt was enormous. I would have loved to just forget it all... And my aunt was probably willing to do that, not knowing any better. The fact that I didn't is a large part of my recent success. I have enough to be ashamed of, and I don't need any more. The shame doesn't go away, but I can at least put it to good use. And I do. So, pretending like nothing happened is a detriment to all parties involved. </p><p></p><p>Have you ever sat down with him and tried to explain why what he has been doing is wrong? The effects it has on not only him, but on you and the rest of your family? If not, I suggest you do. Don't let him just turn his back on all of it. What he did was WRONG. He needs to really appreciate WHY it was wrong.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DarkwingPsyduck, post: 686255, member: 20267"] You should be guarded. If you weren't, people may start to question your sanity. You are not wrong for feeling the way you feel. Those feelings are a result of his actions, not yours. His choices, not yours. He cannot truly appreciate the very real effect his actions have on those around him. Active addicts are very similar to sociopaths. Even if the addict never showed any sociopathic tendencies BEFORE the drugs, they will show them WITH the drugs. You'd have to ask "What is different this time than the other times?". If the answer is "nothing", then you'd be a fool for getting your hopes up that THIS will be any different. That is how rational people think. And it serves us well. None of us looked forward to finally facing the music, but it is necessary to do so. To stop the lies, and the excuses, and the justifications. It is hard to deal with shame, and the shame that I felt was enormous. I would have loved to just forget it all... And my aunt was probably willing to do that, not knowing any better. The fact that I didn't is a large part of my recent success. I have enough to be ashamed of, and I don't need any more. The shame doesn't go away, but I can at least put it to good use. And I do. So, pretending like nothing happened is a detriment to all parties involved. Have you ever sat down with him and tried to explain why what he has been doing is wrong? The effects it has on not only him, but on you and the rest of your family? If not, I suggest you do. Don't let him just turn his back on all of it. What he did was WRONG. He needs to really appreciate WHY it was wrong. [/QUOTE]
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