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<blockquote data-quote="mcb1964" data-source="post: 699405" data-attributes="member: 20787"><p>"mcb1964, your post basically described my worst fear - that we're looking at a life-long issue. What ifshe never makes it out of this rut? It can be seen as normal teenage rebellion, but what if a few years from now she's 17, 19, 21 and still in the same situation?</p><p>That therapist appointment cannot come soon enough!"</p><p></p><p>I totally understand. My oldest son is homeless and on drugs. We have a restraining order out on him to keep him away from our house both our safety and our sanity. I see him around and ask if he's ready to get help, either psychological or rehab and he shrugs and says, "No. Not yet. I'm happy being out here and not ready to stop using". (Side note: this child was the wimpiest kid in many respects---had a job and had to quit because "my wrists! so much pain! I can't dooooooooooo it!" When I'd tell him to walk because I'm not the chauffeur, "My FEET! I can't walk far because it HUUUUURTTTTTSSSSS!" and so I am bewildered as to how this child is living out on the streets and happy about it.) I also keep going there in my mind---"What if he's 50 and still on the streets? What if this is actually his lifestyle choice permanently?" </p><p></p><p>I hope you take some comfort in this..</p><p></p><p>My doctor's 5 kids were 100% a pain in the butt. They all came of age in the 70s and early 80s when the drugs were weed, acid/mushrooms, quaaludes and cocaine. Two of them dropped out of high school (one of them went to college and is now a nurse practitioner). They all turned out reasonably okay, with one of them employed by him in his office as the office manager. </p><p></p><p>I come from a large family. There are 12 of us among three different parents (it's complicated...lol). All but 3 had our issues, including me. I didn't graduate high school but went on to college and earned my bachelor's degree later in life. Five of my siblings and I (so half of us) were drug addicts or alcoholics. Of all of us, only two remain problematic, but even those two are employed and living okay lives. </p><p></p><p>I say all that to let you (and me!) know that the odds are ever in our favor that they will figure it out eventually. It's the pain they cause while figuring it out that's hard to take. But we're moms. We're tough. We can do this. (Please say we can do this! lol) </p><p></p><p>Hang in there and I will too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mcb1964, post: 699405, member: 20787"] "mcb1964, your post basically described my worst fear - that we're looking at a life-long issue. What ifshe never makes it out of this rut? It can be seen as normal teenage rebellion, but what if a few years from now she's 17, 19, 21 and still in the same situation? That therapist appointment cannot come soon enough!" I totally understand. My oldest son is homeless and on drugs. We have a restraining order out on him to keep him away from our house both our safety and our sanity. I see him around and ask if he's ready to get help, either psychological or rehab and he shrugs and says, "No. Not yet. I'm happy being out here and not ready to stop using". (Side note: this child was the wimpiest kid in many respects---had a job and had to quit because "my wrists! so much pain! I can't dooooooooooo it!" When I'd tell him to walk because I'm not the chauffeur, "My FEET! I can't walk far because it HUUUUURTTTTTSSSSS!" and so I am bewildered as to how this child is living out on the streets and happy about it.) I also keep going there in my mind---"What if he's 50 and still on the streets? What if this is actually his lifestyle choice permanently?" I hope you take some comfort in this.. My doctor's 5 kids were 100% a pain in the butt. They all came of age in the 70s and early 80s when the drugs were weed, acid/mushrooms, quaaludes and cocaine. Two of them dropped out of high school (one of them went to college and is now a nurse practitioner). They all turned out reasonably okay, with one of them employed by him in his office as the office manager. I come from a large family. There are 12 of us among three different parents (it's complicated...lol). All but 3 had our issues, including me. I didn't graduate high school but went on to college and earned my bachelor's degree later in life. Five of my siblings and I (so half of us) were drug addicts or alcoholics. Of all of us, only two remain problematic, but even those two are employed and living okay lives. I say all that to let you (and me!) know that the odds are ever in our favor that they will figure it out eventually. It's the pain they cause while figuring it out that's hard to take. But we're moms. We're tough. We can do this. (Please say we can do this! lol) Hang in there and I will too. [/QUOTE]
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