My dad is going to drive me NUTS!!!!!! (bio dad by the way) My grandma is currently living in Ohio in a house owned by my aunt and her husband. (They moved to NC) Since Grandpa died 2 1/2 years ago, G'ma has been stressed over all kinds of stuff. G'pa's death, being alone, having to do her own financial stuff, her health...just everything. She roamed around a bit before settling in this house and it's still stressful. When she moved in, another uncle, his daughter and her toddler, and one of his son's were living there. To say it was a bit chaotic would be .....polite. Uncle has since gotten married and moved out as has his one son. But the daughter has been back and forth between there and whatever boyfriend she was living with and now another uncle has moved in. There has also been a lot of drama involving missing pain pills of G'ma's but I'm not even going there right now. So anyway....the uncle who owns the house has basically booted everyone out. His plan is to keep the house as a rental but has told G'ma that if it comes to it, SHE can still stay. He just doesn't want the revolving door going on with people who are quite capable of providing for themselves and who's behavior has been less than stellar. G'ma is NOW stressing over where to live. My dad REALLY wants her in his town and I completely understand that. BUT...he's not thinking logically. He put a hold on an apartment near him and sent the paper work with my sister when we were over there this past weekend. It's a nice place, has two bedrooms because my one uncle will be moving with her, close to Dad....it's all perfect. EXCEPT the rent and utilities would take 3/4 of her monthly income. We are all counting on the fact that my uncle gets a job and contributes too but G'ma wants a place that she can afford alone just in case. The place Dad picked just isn't that place. The woman only has $1200/month coming in so $800 a month wouldn't leave her with much. (Dad's comment? What does she need money for??? Gaaaaaaaaaaaa!!!) I've been calling around in the town I live and found some decent apartments that she could afford. Nope. DAD wants her in HIS town. OMG. I'M here. My uncle would be with her. My town is only 20 miles down the road from HIS town. Granted, his town is big so it would be about 45 minutes from his house to any of the apartments here but it's still CLOSE!!!!! Today I called a complex that a friend of mine manages. I had this place in mind the entire time because it's mainly (but not completely) senior citizen apartments. I just didn't think they had two bedrooms but THEY DO!!!! AND the rent is $600 a month and that includes ALL UTILITIES AND CABLE!!!! All G'ma would need to pay for is her phone. With Uncle working too, they would be more than fine. And, Dad has a job lined up for uncle in his town. It would be a little bit of a drive for Uncle but he's ok with it....I asked. Besides....I really don't think that we could find a place in Dad's town (in a good area) that would be a better deal than this place. I just don't see it happening. Anything decent in a non-drive by shooting area of town wouldn't be anything close to that price with all that's included. Besides....even if he DID find something.....Dad would still probably have to drive almost as long to get there as he would here. I KNOW he wants her close by and I understand. I really do. But where he lives....close by is very expensive and she wants somewhere that she KNOWS she can afford without depending on Uncle working. And she doesn't want to HAVE to depend on others for financial support. When Dad said "Well what does she need extra money for?"....omg....I could have just popped him upside the head. Oh I don't know Dad....maybe she likes knowing she's got more than a few bucks in her pocket each month. Granted, the woman isn't flat broke...she's got SOME money in the bank and some cd's but she's already said (repeatedly) that she would need to dip into that if she had the first place Dad picked out and she does NOT want to do that. It scares her to even think about it. She and G'pa have ALWAYS been....let's say....comfortable. The last few years before G'pa died though, they lost a LOT of money in stocks and bad decisions on G'pa's part. I don't think he was still as sharp as we all thought for a couple of years before his death. But....he always took care of things and now that she has to, G'ma REFUSES to live paycheck to paycheck. I don't blame her. So...I told Dad about the place and grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr....he agrees we can't beat the price but he's still being stubborn. I also called to G'ma's but she was asleep. I told my uncle about it and he thinks it's a good idea too. He's not tickled about the driving for the job but he's willing. It really isn't an unreasonable drive, just longer than what he's used to. He's going to have G'ma call me back when she gets up so I'm really going to push this place to her. Nicely of course....I don't want to sound like Dad and I don't want to pressure her. I think though that she will really like the financial end of it and the set up of the apartments. The building is an old school that was rehabed into apartments. There are no outside doors in the apartments...they all open out into an indoor hall....there's a lobby and community room on the main floor...it's a 3 or 4 story building but there are elevators....the residents are very social.....it's just PERFECT! The only thing she won't like is that the apartments don't have a washer/dryer in them. There are machines in the building but if she didn't want to do it that way, I could go over and do her laundry for her there or bring it home and do. (*snort* she says she's not sure if she trusts Uncle to do it HER way and HE isn't happy at the prospect of washing his mother's undies. LOL He'd do it of course but he'd rather not.) But yeah....my father needs to pull his head out of his you know what and look at things logically. G'ma already said she would be willing to live in a number of surrounding towns. It's not HIS choice, it's HER'S.