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Abandonment? Trying to get in his head again...
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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 709210" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Bluebell, you did not abandon him. Understand that when we "liberate" our adult difficult children from our homes, they will ramp things up.</p><p>He is trying to guilt you into letting him move back in.</p><p></p><p>Understand that even if you did let him move back in the result would be the same. He would not follow your rules and your would end up "liberating" him again.</p><p></p><p>I prefer the word liberate as to kicked out. Our kids will use those words against us.</p><p>ADC: "Well if you hadn't kicked me out I wouldn't be in this mess"</p><p>Parent: I did not kick you out, I liberated you so you can live your life on your terms.</p><p></p><p></p><p>This is something that our kids just don't understand, it's not their house. They did not pay the mortgage. They live with us as we raise them then they are supposed to launch into adulthood and start their own life living in their own house or apartment.</p><p></p><p>Please do not feel bad. If my son were to show up on my doorstep today, I would not invite him in. Family or not, if I can't trust the person then I don't want them in my home.</p><p></p><p>I'm pretty sure your son thought once he was in that you'd let him stay. He is finding out that you are serious with the boundaries you've set.</p><p></p><p>Stay strong and hold firm.</p><p></p><p>((HUGS))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 709210, member: 18516"] Bluebell, you did not abandon him. Understand that when we "liberate" our adult difficult children from our homes, they will ramp things up. He is trying to guilt you into letting him move back in. Understand that even if you did let him move back in the result would be the same. He would not follow your rules and your would end up "liberating" him again. I prefer the word liberate as to kicked out. Our kids will use those words against us. ADC: "Well if you hadn't kicked me out I wouldn't be in this mess" Parent: I did not kick you out, I liberated you so you can live your life on your terms. This is something that our kids just don't understand, it's not their house. They did not pay the mortgage. They live with us as we raise them then they are supposed to launch into adulthood and start their own life living in their own house or apartment. Please do not feel bad. If my son were to show up on my doorstep today, I would not invite him in. Family or not, if I can't trust the person then I don't want them in my home. I'm pretty sure your son thought once he was in that you'd let him stay. He is finding out that you are serious with the boundaries you've set. Stay strong and hold firm. ((HUGS)) [/QUOTE]
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