SusieStar, and thank YOU.
Notice most of us are not upset.
If you are that upset, there is another option also. Although every single member here is valuable to this board's input, I would rather have somebody leave than go to court, although I believe they'd lose as this is a privately owned site. I didn't read a post about anyone threatening legal action but I skipped over quite a few since I feel this is not the reason the forum is here and I am trying to help respond to the people who actually need help. This issue has some focused on it, and not the parents who may be suffering.
The forum will survive. It has survived for a very long time. Some new people will come. Some will leave over this issue and, if so, then my feeling is, they are more interested in pettiness than needing the community of parents fighting the hard battles of having a difficult child. Also, Susie, like you, I looked under "difficult child" and also "struggling child." Not all of our children are adults. I came when my kids were young.
If our kids put up a fuss over something as trite as a word, would we honestly take them seriously or would we say, "There they go again."
I'm going back to doing what I"m here to do...trying to help struggling moms who are interested in finding understanding rather than worrying about how we refer to our grown children. I am overwhelmingly supporting Cheryl and the moderators who work so hard to give us all a place to vent, cry, share and heal. Honestly, if this site doesn't meet your needs and you don't want to be the one staying up at night deleting the posts from the Love Doctor in India who spams our site, then find another place you like better. But they will also have rules. And you will have to follow them whether you like them or not or else you will be banned. This particular forum is very good about NOT banning people.
I hope we can get back to the spirit of the board in a little while and drop this issue. It has nothing to do with why we came here.