We have new next door neighbors, maybe 3 months or so. We are friendly, not overly close. They did tell us that the reason they moved was because their son was killed in a motorcycle accident and they just couldn't stand being in the same small town it happened in. I guess their son was well known in the community, I think he was 18 yrs. old and had just graduated. They said so many people stopped talking to them and when they were at the grocery store or out and about, they could hear people whisper "there's so and so's mom". They just couldn't take it anymore. Interesting enough, their son died on my birthday! Is it proper for me to do something for them, send flowers, offer a hug, cook something, what? Certainly I shouldn't ignore this important day in their lives. Please, somebody share with me the proper thing to do.