I am the step-mother of a 13 year old boy. I have been home educating him for the last 4 years due to his unwillingness to comply with the rules of the school and not doing his work. They classed him as unteachable because at grade 4 he could not read, write or do basic maths. In the time that I have been home educating him, EVERYTHING is a fight. He should be in grade 9 this year but I have him listed as Grade 7. He is reading at an above adult level, but every other subject he just simply doesn't want to do the work. I can't get him to do his schoolwork without sitting on him.
Now at age 11 he was exposed to porn by a 16 year old neighbor, and then 8 months later an adult woman gave him a stack of porn magazines and was grooming him for sexual behavior. He is now almost 14 and is addicted to porn. We have taken his easy child, Tablet, and Phone away from him, yet he continues to steal them to access the material. We have even gone so far as to remove access of the devices from our home network.
He was brought home on Saturday by the police, he had not come home Saturday night and we reported him as missing. Not even two days later he stole the cellphone from my bedroom and was not only watching porn again, but had registered for Adult Dating and Sexting sites.
He constantly steals from me and my husband. He is already drinking alcohol with his friends. And we just do not know what to do. Supposedly he is on the Asperger's spectrum, yet many of his behaviors are not "typical" asperger's behaviors. Yes I know all kids are different but he falls way off the chart. His biological mother died when he was 6 and he was happy. He was happy because he would get to live with me and his father. His mother was an alcoholic and I wonder if he may have far more issues than we know. Like Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE), Attachment disorder or any number of other issues.
We are going to see yet another councilor thanks to the police involvement. But I am at my wits ends, and if something doesn't happen soon I want to know if anyone knows of options on removing a 14 year old from the home. What rights do we as parents have to defend ourselves from children who may do us harm?
By the way while he is currently non-violent, he has googled how to kill your parents. So the thoughts are there.
Now at age 11 he was exposed to porn by a 16 year old neighbor, and then 8 months later an adult woman gave him a stack of porn magazines and was grooming him for sexual behavior. He is now almost 14 and is addicted to porn. We have taken his easy child, Tablet, and Phone away from him, yet he continues to steal them to access the material. We have even gone so far as to remove access of the devices from our home network.
He was brought home on Saturday by the police, he had not come home Saturday night and we reported him as missing. Not even two days later he stole the cellphone from my bedroom and was not only watching porn again, but had registered for Adult Dating and Sexting sites.
He constantly steals from me and my husband. He is already drinking alcohol with his friends. And we just do not know what to do. Supposedly he is on the Asperger's spectrum, yet many of his behaviors are not "typical" asperger's behaviors. Yes I know all kids are different but he falls way off the chart. His biological mother died when he was 6 and he was happy. He was happy because he would get to live with me and his father. His mother was an alcoholic and I wonder if he may have far more issues than we know. Like Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE), Attachment disorder or any number of other issues.
We are going to see yet another councilor thanks to the police involvement. But I am at my wits ends, and if something doesn't happen soon I want to know if anyone knows of options on removing a 14 year old from the home. What rights do we as parents have to defend ourselves from children who may do us harm?
By the way while he is currently non-violent, he has googled how to kill your parents. So the thoughts are there.