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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 707786" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hi. This is so not your fault.</p><p></p><p>As an adoptive mom who deliberately adopted special needs children, i schooled myself on both fetal alcohol syndrome and attachment disorder before jumping in. We adopted one boy who was positive for crack at birth so you know his birthmpther did not say "sorry, I cant drink because I'm pregnant." He is fortunate. He is only mildly autistic, but your boy probably did not dodge the Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) or Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) bullet.</p><p></p><p>I read every book on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) that was out at the time though. Am I an expert? Nope. But Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) is a real possibility and a counselor is not educated enough to diagnose it either. I would see a neurologist or neuro psychologist. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) or its silent but serious cousin, Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE), is not helped by talking to a counselor. Alcohol can cause brain damage. The brain damage causes puzzling behavior. Memory can be impaired. There is usually a lack of understanding of right from wrong. Its not the persons fault. They lack the ability to understand right from wrong. I took my son to a special clinic in Chicago that pioneers treatment for alcohol spectrum disorders, but they tested him in detail and told us he was not impaired by birthmothets alcohol although the autism was likely from the drugs.</p><p></p><p>I also know about attachment disorder and those people dont really learn to make normal attachments and also tend to lie, steal and act out. This kid has been gobsmacked by birthmother. Its too bad she ever had custody.</p><p></p><p>Instead of looking for behavioral cures, with dont work with either disorder, take him to a top neurologist or neuro psychologist for diagnostics. Once you know, then you can get the right help for him and you. If he is best off living out of home, which is possible, you can get help for that too once he is diagnosed.</p><p></p><p>You cant drink and drug during pregnancy and not affect your developing fetuses tender brain. My sons birthmother had lost custody of four other kids before my son, all different fathers and all drug/alcohol exposed.</p><p></p><p>They are at higher risk to abuse substances than the average population. This stepson of yours makes me very sad. Like he was set up before he was born. Still, he is unsafe.</p><p></p><p>Lock your bedroom door at night and all sharp belongings such as knives and scissors. Use plastic. Lock up or get rid of fire arms. Put an alarm pn his bedroom door so ypu jear if he leaves his room at night and are aware, even though it will wake you.</p><p></p><p>Consider foster care. Get him doagnosed ASAP and then you can find alternative long term living arrangements.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 707786, member: 1550"] Hi. This is so not your fault. As an adoptive mom who deliberately adopted special needs children, i schooled myself on both fetal alcohol syndrome and attachment disorder before jumping in. We adopted one boy who was positive for crack at birth so you know his birthmpther did not say "sorry, I cant drink because I'm pregnant." He is fortunate. He is only mildly autistic, but your boy probably did not dodge the Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) or Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE) bullet. I read every book on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) that was out at the time though. Am I an expert? Nope. But Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) is a real possibility and a counselor is not educated enough to diagnose it either. I would see a neurologist or neuro psychologist. Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) or its silent but serious cousin, Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE), is not helped by talking to a counselor. Alcohol can cause brain damage. The brain damage causes puzzling behavior. Memory can be impaired. There is usually a lack of understanding of right from wrong. Its not the persons fault. They lack the ability to understand right from wrong. I took my son to a special clinic in Chicago that pioneers treatment for alcohol spectrum disorders, but they tested him in detail and told us he was not impaired by birthmothets alcohol although the autism was likely from the drugs. I also know about attachment disorder and those people dont really learn to make normal attachments and also tend to lie, steal and act out. This kid has been gobsmacked by birthmother. Its too bad she ever had custody. Instead of looking for behavioral cures, with dont work with either disorder, take him to a top neurologist or neuro psychologist for diagnostics. Once you know, then you can get the right help for him and you. If he is best off living out of home, which is possible, you can get help for that too once he is diagnosed. You cant drink and drug during pregnancy and not affect your developing fetuses tender brain. My sons birthmother had lost custody of four other kids before my son, all different fathers and all drug/alcohol exposed. They are at higher risk to abuse substances than the average population. This stepson of yours makes me very sad. Like he was set up before he was born. Still, he is unsafe. Lock your bedroom door at night and all sharp belongings such as knives and scissors. Use plastic. Lock up or get rid of fire arms. Put an alarm pn his bedroom door so ypu jear if he leaves his room at night and are aware, even though it will wake you. Consider foster care. Get him doagnosed ASAP and then you can find alternative long term living arrangements. [/QUOTE]
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