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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 31001" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I do understand, Stormy. About in-school suspensions - no, we don't seem to have these here. Not officially. But it sounds like something that should be possible to set up as part of an IEP. It would cost extra, but that's what funding is for. Sorry I can't remember in detail - have you got an IEP in place for him at all? Can you request a Learning Team Meeting at the school? Ask for the District Special Needs person to be present too. (by the way - is he state, or private? The catholic school system has similar support systems, though, because the funding is Federal and they can ALL tap into it).</p><p></p><p>You need to break this cycle. You're right - he's getting off on having you around plus being able to annoy his brother. You need to prove that misbehaviour brings no reward, plus you need to break his extreme link with you. Make it clear to the school that he is getting rewarded with each suspension, because his aim is to be with you and he's winning. He needs the Aussie equivalent of in-school suspension, and if that needs DET to access emergency funding to pay for an aide to supervise working in school, then so be it.</p><p></p><p>I do recall you said his school is fairly useless - another reason to talk to District Office. His local school MUST take him, they can't expel him due to his special needs, either, not without making alternate provisions for him. So far, they are failing in this.</p><p></p><p>If you get no joy, call Bridge St (DET head office) and ask to talk to the Disabilities person there (I have a name somewhere if you need it) and say you have an extraordinarily difficult problem and you want their expert advice on what alternatives you can plug into in order to ensure your son gets educated appropriately.</p><p></p><p>Assessments - how far have you got in getting his needs pinpointed? Sounds to me like you still need answers. If so, that is another battlefront. Community Health are supposed to help there but waiting lists are ridiculous. You could try Westmead (they have a brilliant group there), but chances are they'll refer you back to your area health service. It might be worth a try though. And if his name is on the waiting list, you can be trying to sort out other stuff while you're waiting. Frustrating, though.</p><p></p><p>I can't recall - did you get a Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) score on him, in the informal test? If you do it, keep a copy of the printout, it could be helpful for a professional to see.</p><p></p><p>Trying to deal with this on your own - no wonder you're feeling this way. You need back-up to support you emotionally while you try to get those who SHOULD be handling his education, to take the responsibility. He shouldn't be getting suspended all the time like this, they should be trying different measures instead of just making the same mistakes with him. There ARE other options, but you will probably need to really nag over the school's head to get some changes.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 31001, member: 1991"] I do understand, Stormy. About in-school suspensions - no, we don't seem to have these here. Not officially. But it sounds like something that should be possible to set up as part of an IEP. It would cost extra, but that's what funding is for. Sorry I can't remember in detail - have you got an IEP in place for him at all? Can you request a Learning Team Meeting at the school? Ask for the District Special Needs person to be present too. (by the way - is he state, or private? The catholic school system has similar support systems, though, because the funding is Federal and they can ALL tap into it). You need to break this cycle. You're right - he's getting off on having you around plus being able to annoy his brother. You need to prove that misbehaviour brings no reward, plus you need to break his extreme link with you. Make it clear to the school that he is getting rewarded with each suspension, because his aim is to be with you and he's winning. He needs the Aussie equivalent of in-school suspension, and if that needs DET to access emergency funding to pay for an aide to supervise working in school, then so be it. I do recall you said his school is fairly useless - another reason to talk to District Office. His local school MUST take him, they can't expel him due to his special needs, either, not without making alternate provisions for him. So far, they are failing in this. If you get no joy, call Bridge St (DET head office) and ask to talk to the Disabilities person there (I have a name somewhere if you need it) and say you have an extraordinarily difficult problem and you want their expert advice on what alternatives you can plug into in order to ensure your son gets educated appropriately. Assessments - how far have you got in getting his needs pinpointed? Sounds to me like you still need answers. If so, that is another battlefront. Community Health are supposed to help there but waiting lists are ridiculous. You could try Westmead (they have a brilliant group there), but chances are they'll refer you back to your area health service. It might be worth a try though. And if his name is on the waiting list, you can be trying to sort out other stuff while you're waiting. Frustrating, though. I can't recall - did you get a Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) score on him, in the informal test? If you do it, keep a copy of the printout, it could be helpful for a professional to see. Trying to deal with this on your own - no wonder you're feeling this way. You need back-up to support you emotionally while you try to get those who SHOULD be handling his education, to take the responsibility. He shouldn't be getting suspended all the time like this, they should be trying different measures instead of just making the same mistakes with him. There ARE other options, but you will probably need to really nag over the school's head to get some changes. Marg [/QUOTE]
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