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<blockquote data-quote="Mikey" data-source="post: 31019" data-attributes="member: 3579"><p>So sorry Stormy for your current situation.</p><p></p><p>I do want to tell, you, though, that you need to break the cycle between your difficult child's ASAP. I never had that problem in my house - my difficult child would rather live as a tennant than play Che Guiverra and start a revolution.</p><p></p><p>But that's what it sounds like your difficult child 1 is doing - starting a revolution against you in the home, and enlisting his siblings in the insurrection. My wife works with a woman who had the same thing happen in her house: older difficult child brother, substance abuser, started to enlist his younger sister in his escapades, and useing her as an ally when the poor Mom finally found out and decided to take action.</p><p></p><p>YMMV, but she immediately put her son out of the house (he was 19, daughter was 16). That broke the cabal, and while it took some time for her son to recover and make some sense of his life, getting him away from the daughter was necessary to prevent him from "infecting" her any further (her words). </p><p></p><p>Your kids are younger, but from where I sit as an outsider the principal seems to be the same: you somehow need to find a way to break up the resistance cell in your home that your difficult child 1 is starting. He's young - maybe a temporary placement in Residential Treatment Center (RTC)? Even if it didn't help <strong>him</strong> much (let's hope that it would), it would at least give you some time to regroup, rest, and work with your docs/schools/whatever to formulate a plan. It would also give you some time to break the cycle with your younger difficult child.</p><p></p><p>IANAD, but that's my "outsider's" perspective, for what it's worth.</p><p></p><p>I pray for grace and peace for you and your house.</p><p></p><p>Mikey</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mikey, post: 31019, member: 3579"] So sorry Stormy for your current situation. I do want to tell, you, though, that you need to break the cycle between your difficult child's ASAP. I never had that problem in my house - my difficult child would rather live as a tennant than play Che Guiverra and start a revolution. But that's what it sounds like your difficult child 1 is doing - starting a revolution against you in the home, and enlisting his siblings in the insurrection. My wife works with a woman who had the same thing happen in her house: older difficult child brother, substance abuser, started to enlist his younger sister in his escapades, and useing her as an ally when the poor Mom finally found out and decided to take action. YMMV, but she immediately put her son out of the house (he was 19, daughter was 16). That broke the cabal, and while it took some time for her son to recover and make some sense of his life, getting him away from the daughter was necessary to prevent him from "infecting" her any further (her words). Your kids are younger, but from where I sit as an outsider the principal seems to be the same: you somehow need to find a way to break up the resistance cell in your home that your difficult child 1 is starting. He's young - maybe a temporary placement in Residential Treatment Center (RTC)? Even if it didn't help [b]him[/b] much (let's hope that it would), it would at least give you some time to regroup, rest, and work with your docs/schools/whatever to formulate a plan. It would also give you some time to break the cycle with your younger difficult child. IANAD, but that's my "outsider's" perspective, for what it's worth. I pray for grace and peace for you and your house. Mikey [/QUOTE]
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