My new partner has informed me he's coming to visit us the first week of June. He's flying all the way from LA to come see us in London. He's told me, in order for things to progress between us, he wants to meet my children. He's paid out a lot of money on a visa and flights, to spend time with us here. In a `normal` setting, most women would be elated to spend time with their new man. However...with easy child and difficult child constantly on each other, with the fighting and non-stop arguing...I'm absolutely terrified! In all of the 4 brief relationships I've had since 2000...all of them ended up walking away because they couldn't cope with difficult child. One man got sprayed in the eyes with perfume. Another got poked in the eyes while difficult child stood there smirking...and the last relationship I had in 2004, he walked away because difficult child whacked him around the head so hard with a towel rail, the rail bent. ExH is happily married again and knows how much stress she can cause. I've asked him that when partner comes, could he take difficult child for a few days? He said no. I'm fed up with being lonely. None of my friends come over anymore and a few friendships have been ruined, so babysitting is not an option as no-one wants to do it. Can anyone offer me any advice as to how to prepare for this? I'm dreading this visit, even though I shouldn't be. But spending out all that money and spending a week with easy child and difficult child, it's enough to drive anyone bananas. I just want to find my happiness but feeling constantly held back by fear and gfgness.