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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 633115" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Great post, MWM.</p><p></p><p>For me, soothing my mother, doing all I could to help so she would be happier and things would not get out of hand carried right into adulthood.</p><p></p><p>So did my mother's abusive patterns.</p><p></p><p>This was all so much a part of who we all were that all of us just kept acting our dysfunctional roles.</p><p></p><p>My mom is in her eighties, now.</p><p></p><p>For those trying to unravel how negative coping methods developed in childhood are affecting us today:</p><p></p><p><a href="http://www.committedtofreedom.org" target="_blank">www.committedtofreedom.org</a></p><p></p><p>As I work through the levels, unresolved Issues around anger and fear seem to carry as big a charge as clearing issues of admission and self image.</p><p></p><p>Here are some quotes from articles from the site listed above.</p><p></p><p>RAGE</p><p></p><p>"Rage is more than outward anger. It is the deep, unsettled sense that someone has to pay for what was done to you. </p><p></p><p>Rage is the offspring of lost power and control. To experience rage or abuse of any kind brings every human being to the terrifying reality that they do not have enough power and control to protect themselves or to prevent trauma. When you are confronted with that reality -- even as a child -- it sets off a torrent of panic and unleashes an obsessed vigilante who is bent on punishing wrongs and vindicating injustice. It sets everyone on a course of power gathering.</p><p></p><p>Some of us bulk up -- physically, financially, professionally, academically, relationally.</p><p></p><p>You work hard to push that sense of being overpowered and exploited behind all that you have and are. </p><p></p><p>No one ever sees the terrified child cowering in a corner. ..."</p><p></p><p>There is so much more here that I found relevant. </p><p></p><p>Some of us stuff everything, take the blame for everything for the rest of our lives and turn into people pleasers.</p><p></p><p>There is one on fear, too.</p><p></p><p>If you visit the site, put /rage or fear or whatever aspect you want to know more about behind site address.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 633115, member: 17461"] Great post, MWM. For me, soothing my mother, doing all I could to help so she would be happier and things would not get out of hand carried right into adulthood. So did my mother's abusive patterns. This was all so much a part of who we all were that all of us just kept acting our dysfunctional roles. My mom is in her eighties, now. For those trying to unravel how negative coping methods developed in childhood are affecting us today: [url="http://www.committedtofreedom.org"]www.committedtofreedom.org[/url] As I work through the levels, unresolved Issues around anger and fear seem to carry as big a charge as clearing issues of admission and self image. Here are some quotes from articles from the site listed above. RAGE "Rage is more than outward anger. It is the deep, unsettled sense that someone has to pay for what was done to you. Rage is the offspring of lost power and control. To experience rage or abuse of any kind brings every human being to the terrifying reality that they do not have enough power and control to protect themselves or to prevent trauma. When you are confronted with that reality -- even as a child -- it sets off a torrent of panic and unleashes an obsessed vigilante who is bent on punishing wrongs and vindicating injustice. It sets everyone on a course of power gathering. Some of us bulk up -- physically, financially, professionally, academically, relationally. You work hard to push that sense of being overpowered and exploited behind all that you have and are. No one ever sees the terrified child cowering in a corner. ..." There is so much more here that I found relevant. Some of us stuff everything, take the blame for everything for the rest of our lives and turn into people pleasers. There is one on fear, too. If you visit the site, put /rage or fear or whatever aspect you want to know more about behind site address. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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