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Abused children who love thier parents dearlyuntil the end
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<blockquote data-quote="Signorina" data-source="post: 633136"><p>Abusers often have two distinct sides of their personality. Usually, there is a nicer side - maybe even repenting aka generous side- that they show at least once in a while. At the same time, abusers often blame their victims for setting them off - whether it's full scale - "I gave you what you deserved" or just "you make me so mad when you are naughty".</p><p></p><p>Most children genuinely love their parents, especially young children who depend upon them. A young child doesn't know that the parent is horrible, they just know that they like it when that parent is being nice to them. And they often take at least partial responsibility or feel guilty for "setting the parent off". IME, it sets up a scenario where a child wants to be in mom or dad's good graces and does everything possible in order to achieve that. That desire for their parent to like them never goes away & probably is why they try so hard with parents who don't deserve their unconditional love.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Signorina, post: 633136"] Abusers often have two distinct sides of their personality. Usually, there is a nicer side - maybe even repenting aka generous side- that they show at least once in a while. At the same time, abusers often blame their victims for setting them off - whether it's full scale - "I gave you what you deserved" or just "you make me so mad when you are naughty". Most children genuinely love their parents, especially young children who depend upon them. A young child doesn't know that the parent is horrible, they just know that they like it when that parent is being nice to them. And they often take at least partial responsibility or feel guilty for "setting the parent off". IME, it sets up a scenario where a child wants to be in mom or dad's good graces and does everything possible in order to achieve that. That desire for their parent to like them never goes away & probably is why they try so hard with parents who don't deserve their unconditional love. [/QUOTE]
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