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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 711386" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>I agree. I agree. I agree with everything others have said. You can't be held hostage by an abusive child - any more than you should be held hostage by any abusive indivdual such as a husband.</p><p></p><p>I am sure you have mixed feelings of love, worry, compassion, anger, rage and even hatred toward your son. All normal. I have those same feelings for my stepson who is Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, placid and sweet until thwarted and then The Incredible Hulk pops out of his shell. He nearly killed my wife by strangulation and has never expressed any remorse whatsoever - has never even apologized even after therapy. He is currently 16 and does not live with us, and never has. He lives with his father, my wife's ex husband.</p><p></p><p>You will have plenty of time and opportunity to work through those feelings once you are SAFE. I agree that you are not safe as long as your son is living in your home. I would suggest having him removed from the home by the police. You can call your county's social services hotline to start to get some help. I don't think you mentioned his age, at 18 you can legally put him out. If he is 18 I would put his stuff on the curb and change the locks, and call the cops when he starts banging on the door. I'd also suggest cutting off his access to anything you provide if he is 18, if a minor, you have to give him clothes and a place to sleep but certainly phones, tablets, computers, brand name designers etc are not something you need to give him as long as he is behaving this way.</p><p></p><p>Good luck</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 711386, member: 13303"] I agree. I agree. I agree with everything others have said. You can't be held hostage by an abusive child - any more than you should be held hostage by any abusive indivdual such as a husband. I am sure you have mixed feelings of love, worry, compassion, anger, rage and even hatred toward your son. All normal. I have those same feelings for my stepson who is Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, placid and sweet until thwarted and then The Incredible Hulk pops out of his shell. He nearly killed my wife by strangulation and has never expressed any remorse whatsoever - has never even apologized even after therapy. He is currently 16 and does not live with us, and never has. He lives with his father, my wife's ex husband. You will have plenty of time and opportunity to work through those feelings once you are SAFE. I agree that you are not safe as long as your son is living in your home. I would suggest having him removed from the home by the police. You can call your county's social services hotline to start to get some help. I don't think you mentioned his age, at 18 you can legally put him out. If he is 18 I would put his stuff on the curb and change the locks, and call the cops when he starts banging on the door. I'd also suggest cutting off his access to anything you provide if he is 18, if a minor, you have to give him clothes and a place to sleep but certainly phones, tablets, computers, brand name designers etc are not something you need to give him as long as he is behaving this way. Good luck [/QUOTE]
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