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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 711458" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I would also start to document every single officer's name and badge number, as well as exactly what they tell you as the reason why they cannot or will not do anything - and I would ask them to sign or initial a note that says that they told you that you can't have him removed because of Stupid Reason X (Don't actually call it stupid reason X, write down what they say) and then just ask them to initial it or write their names on it because you want to be able to keep it all straight and not be 'confused'. Then I would go to the state level law enforcement agency when you have a handful of complaints that they won't act on. I would take copies of every scrap of paper and I would ask the state troopers or whomever to look into why the local cops won't help you. The local cops have a DUTY to do their jobs and they are in dereliction of duty if you ask them to do this and they refuse. </p><p></p><p>Of course this means you have to follow through, you cannot press charges and then back out. Then no one gets a clear picture of what should happen or how to help. I am NOT NOT NOT saying you are, will or have done that. I am saying that many cops deal with this on a daily basis. </p><p></p><p>I so strongly urge you to seek help from a domestic violence service. Even if it is just phone counseling for those late night moments when you feel so weak and beat up and useless that you don't think it is worth going on. I assure you, it really is worth all this fuss and fight. And so are you. Until you can trust yourself, trust us, trust me. I was close to your shoes a few years back. I am a whole lot better now. In time you can get here too.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 711458, member: 1233"] I would also start to document every single officer's name and badge number, as well as exactly what they tell you as the reason why they cannot or will not do anything - and I would ask them to sign or initial a note that says that they told you that you can't have him removed because of Stupid Reason X (Don't actually call it stupid reason X, write down what they say) and then just ask them to initial it or write their names on it because you want to be able to keep it all straight and not be 'confused'. Then I would go to the state level law enforcement agency when you have a handful of complaints that they won't act on. I would take copies of every scrap of paper and I would ask the state troopers or whomever to look into why the local cops won't help you. The local cops have a DUTY to do their jobs and they are in dereliction of duty if you ask them to do this and they refuse. Of course this means you have to follow through, you cannot press charges and then back out. Then no one gets a clear picture of what should happen or how to help. I am NOT NOT NOT saying you are, will or have done that. I am saying that many cops deal with this on a daily basis. I so strongly urge you to seek help from a domestic violence service. Even if it is just phone counseling for those late night moments when you feel so weak and beat up and useless that you don't think it is worth going on. I assure you, it really is worth all this fuss and fight. And so are you. Until you can trust yourself, trust us, trust me. I was close to your shoes a few years back. I am a whole lot better now. In time you can get here too. [/QUOTE]
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