Our difficult children bring us so much heartache and challenge, in greater or lesser degrees. I wanted to ask - what are your difficult child's qualities and strengths? They don't get much air-time here and yet it feels important to appreciate those things, amid much that is difficult. To start the ball rolling, this is what I love about J (good to think, and remind myself, also!) He is SO affectionate and loving. He has a great sense of humour. He likes to help (well, within reason...) He is very sensitive. He is INCREDIBLY perceptive, noticing small details that constantly escape me. He is talented at knowing how things come apart and go back together. He tries hard to be good (yes, he really does - and I never realised this until recently.) There'd be other things but this is what springs to mind straightaway. What makes your difficult children unique and valuable?