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Accepting ourselves, the way we are trying to accept our kids.
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<blockquote data-quote="dstc_99" data-source="post: 639934" data-attributes="member: 15473"><p>I think that is almost the hardest part. Once I realized that I did not want to be treated that way anymore I then realized that I didn't like my reaction to the treatment either. So I am slowly changing it. I'm not perfect but I have started to master the "walk away." I don't care how it looks or how anyone feels about it. If they aren't treating me right I give them one reminder and then I walk away if they don't get it.</p><p> </p><p>I use this mostly with difficult child because easy child is still young and learning. She gets a little more reminding and a lot more "oh heck no" when she throws an attitude my way. I had to deliver a little verbal smack down to her yesterday and the whole office thought it was hilarious. They know I don't naturally have a mean or angry bone in my body so when I get mad and bring out the smack down I mean business. Thankfully easy child is learning this and knows to zip the lip when I get mad.</p><p> </p><p>The problem is that we all spend so much time trying to wrap ourselves around the difficult child problems we are dealing with that we forget who we are in the process. It's ok for us to learn better ways to deal with our kids but not to the detriment of our own mental health.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dstc_99, post: 639934, member: 15473"] I think that is almost the hardest part. Once I realized that I did not want to be treated that way anymore I then realized that I didn't like my reaction to the treatment either. So I am slowly changing it. I'm not perfect but I have started to master the "walk away." I don't care how it looks or how anyone feels about it. If they aren't treating me right I give them one reminder and then I walk away if they don't get it. I use this mostly with difficult child because easy child is still young and learning. She gets a little more reminding and a lot more "oh heck no" when she throws an attitude my way. I had to deliver a little verbal smack down to her yesterday and the whole office thought it was hilarious. They know I don't naturally have a mean or angry bone in my body so when I get mad and bring out the smack down I mean business. Thankfully easy child is learning this and knows to zip the lip when I get mad. The problem is that we all spend so much time trying to wrap ourselves around the difficult child problems we are dealing with that we forget who we are in the process. It's ok for us to learn better ways to deal with our kids but not to the detriment of our own mental health. [/QUOTE]
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