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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 16304" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>My impression has been that it is the parent/society that must set up a framework of rules,accountability and responsibility that teach kids to become adults. It helps guide them until the front part of their brain works as well as the back part of the brain. </p><p>I'm not keen on the thought that a kid vandalizes or frightens people and we have to understand where he is coming from. We should treat teens differently than adults because we are still guiding them towards adult behavior but there has to be a sense of justice for the victims as well as appropriate consequence. </p><p></p><p>It's pretty clear to me that teens think differently, are trying out the rules of adulthood, challenging what their parents beliefs are but through trial, error and consequence do they adjust their behavior. If they don't break the law because of the consequence, it's a good thing. Eventually they learn the consequence isn't the reason we obey the law. Until their adult brain understands society need for rules they have to use their teen brain of not wanting to get caught and live with the consequences. </p><p></p><p>The problem with teen consequences at present seems that they get punishment but they don't get guidance from the legal system or maybe they do and they don't hear it. Some kids don't seem to hear or internalize what is being said at one stage but may later on. We can only hope. </p><p></p><p>In case you haven't noticed, I'm a law and order kind of girl. Without rules in society we have chaos. Too stringent rules and consequence set the tone for rebellion. History has shown that throughout the ages.</p><p></p><p>There is no doubt that many of our difficult children take a much longer time to mature to adult brain behavior. They are delayed and I am pretty sure that many criminals and adults never develop a strong frontal cortex.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 16304, member: 3"] My impression has been that it is the parent/society that must set up a framework of rules,accountability and responsibility that teach kids to become adults. It helps guide them until the front part of their brain works as well as the back part of the brain. I'm not keen on the thought that a kid vandalizes or frightens people and we have to understand where he is coming from. We should treat teens differently than adults because we are still guiding them towards adult behavior but there has to be a sense of justice for the victims as well as appropriate consequence. It's pretty clear to me that teens think differently, are trying out the rules of adulthood, challenging what their parents beliefs are but through trial, error and consequence do they adjust their behavior. If they don't break the law because of the consequence, it's a good thing. Eventually they learn the consequence isn't the reason we obey the law. Until their adult brain understands society need for rules they have to use their teen brain of not wanting to get caught and live with the consequences. The problem with teen consequences at present seems that they get punishment but they don't get guidance from the legal system or maybe they do and they don't hear it. Some kids don't seem to hear or internalize what is being said at one stage but may later on. We can only hope. In case you haven't noticed, I'm a law and order kind of girl. Without rules in society we have chaos. Too stringent rules and consequence set the tone for rebellion. History has shown that throughout the ages. There is no doubt that many of our difficult children take a much longer time to mature to adult brain behavior. They are delayed and I am pretty sure that many criminals and adults never develop a strong frontal cortex. [/QUOTE]
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