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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 674058" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>This got me thinking, because logically this comment should make sense, but it doesn't. Then I understood I used polit6ical correct language that does not carry the real meaning I tried to say to someone from other culture. That is an interesting facet of political correctness, isn't it? But anyway 'people in mental health recovery' is, most of the time, just a polite way to say that people with chronic, serious mental health issues (and maybe also other issues) that are actually not expected to recover. There are two types of housing for them. From other type Ache disqualifies because he has taken a shower on his own accord during last month, isn't unable to leave his room, because of the fear of CIA or/and KGB bugging his room or unable to leave the room because he would have a massive panic attack five meters from the door because someone else is also walking at the street. In other words these places, in practise, are bit lighter staffed mental health institutions that are not called that in name of deinstitutionalising, but the biggest difference really is, that the people living there are the ones who has keys to their own doors, not staff. </p><p></p><p>Other type of places are for those suffering from mental health issues, substance abuse or both who have blown their chances in other types of housing by being too disruptive or not using the part meant to pay rent from their state granted welfare to actually pay the rent. These are same people who in your country mostly divide their time between streets, jail and occasionally stay in treatment centre. We tend to be less idealistic and more frugal so instead of trying to teach them a lesson we just give them roof over their head, enough money for food and some entertainment and hope they are too lazy to do anything else, because cumulative cost of petty crime is so high and they are not likely to do anything worthwhile anyway. Then their social worker asks them once or twice a year if they feel like doing something else with their life and those services are offered only if they actually want to.</p><p></p><p>Behind the political correctness that is the reality of the situation. No one called my workmate, or subordinate actually (or how do you actually call the person whose boss you are?), 'a person in mental health recovery' when she came back to work after over a year of sick leave for mental health reasons even though her coming back was strongly supported by disability agency, she first started with half time, had coaching services and we made quite a lot of accommodations to make a transition smooth. It was just 'supported transition back to work life.'</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I'm big believer on peer influence and people getting accustomed to life situation they are in. the lifestyle of 'mental health recoverer' is not something I want for Ache if there is any way to avoid it.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Ache himself assumes he will come home to recover. Hopes he is able to continue his career and get back to the town his team is after a sick leave of some length. He does seem to understand that his team will at least insist longer sick leave than a month he had after crash last autumn. He seems to also understand that they may not want him back at least if he doesn't recover fully. We haven't much pressed other options, because playing is still what he wants and that may motivate him to try to get better. </p><p></p><p>Him being disruptive element in our house is still acceptable for me and hubby at least for short term, as in till next summer. If he will stay in our area longer, we will likely think something else. I own few apartments that I have tenants in. Some I have inherited but one I actually bought when kids were younger in case they would decide to go to Uni the big city next to us, so they could live there during that time. I have always leased it to students and I could free it for Ache for next fall, if that seems like a good idea at the time. It is a two bedroom flat that has usually had two or three students living in it, so in that case I think also Joy would be interested moving into it. But of course, Ache would still need something to do and it can't be a paying job. </p><p></p><p>Till now his job has kept him waking up every morning, eating breakfast and getting out of his flat. He will still need that kind of structure or I fear things would get much worse quickly.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 674058, member: 14557"] This got me thinking, because logically this comment should make sense, but it doesn't. Then I understood I used polit6ical correct language that does not carry the real meaning I tried to say to someone from other culture. That is an interesting facet of political correctness, isn't it? But anyway 'people in mental health recovery' is, most of the time, just a polite way to say that people with chronic, serious mental health issues (and maybe also other issues) that are actually not expected to recover. There are two types of housing for them. From other type Ache disqualifies because he has taken a shower on his own accord during last month, isn't unable to leave his room, because of the fear of CIA or/and KGB bugging his room or unable to leave the room because he would have a massive panic attack five meters from the door because someone else is also walking at the street. In other words these places, in practise, are bit lighter staffed mental health institutions that are not called that in name of deinstitutionalising, but the biggest difference really is, that the people living there are the ones who has keys to their own doors, not staff. Other type of places are for those suffering from mental health issues, substance abuse or both who have blown their chances in other types of housing by being too disruptive or not using the part meant to pay rent from their state granted welfare to actually pay the rent. These are same people who in your country mostly divide their time between streets, jail and occasionally stay in treatment centre. We tend to be less idealistic and more frugal so instead of trying to teach them a lesson we just give them roof over their head, enough money for food and some entertainment and hope they are too lazy to do anything else, because cumulative cost of petty crime is so high and they are not likely to do anything worthwhile anyway. Then their social worker asks them once or twice a year if they feel like doing something else with their life and those services are offered only if they actually want to. Behind the political correctness that is the reality of the situation. No one called my workmate, or subordinate actually (or how do you actually call the person whose boss you are?), 'a person in mental health recovery' when she came back to work after over a year of sick leave for mental health reasons even though her coming back was strongly supported by disability agency, she first started with half time, had coaching services and we made quite a lot of accommodations to make a transition smooth. It was just 'supported transition back to work life.' Anyway, I'm big believer on peer influence and people getting accustomed to life situation they are in. the lifestyle of 'mental health recoverer' is not something I want for Ache if there is any way to avoid it. Ache himself assumes he will come home to recover. Hopes he is able to continue his career and get back to the town his team is after a sick leave of some length. He does seem to understand that his team will at least insist longer sick leave than a month he had after crash last autumn. He seems to also understand that they may not want him back at least if he doesn't recover fully. We haven't much pressed other options, because playing is still what he wants and that may motivate him to try to get better. Him being disruptive element in our house is still acceptable for me and hubby at least for short term, as in till next summer. If he will stay in our area longer, we will likely think something else. I own few apartments that I have tenants in. Some I have inherited but one I actually bought when kids were younger in case they would decide to go to Uni the big city next to us, so they could live there during that time. I have always leased it to students and I could free it for Ache for next fall, if that seems like a good idea at the time. It is a two bedroom flat that has usually had two or three students living in it, so in that case I think also Joy would be interested moving into it. But of course, Ache would still need something to do and it can't be a paying job. Till now his job has kept him waking up every morning, eating breakfast and getting out of his flat. He will still need that kind of structure or I fear things would get much worse quickly. [/QUOTE]
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