I met with-difficult child's teacher today. I knew he was slipping because he has missed so much school. He had wonderful grades last quarter--A's and B's. Now he's got D's and F's. We (the teachers and parents) will yank him up by his collar, and then he will get A's and B's, and then he'll slip again. The teacher noted that a lot of his grades have fallen due to not turning in "daily grade" papers. They are only 10% of the entire grade, but difficult child needs to be reminded that 10% + 10% + 10% = 30, and right now, in order to earn an F, he's got an awful lot of daily grades missing. English alone has 6 missing daily grades. He has been lying and telling me he has no homework. I look in his backpack and scheduler and can't find any. So the teacher is going to staple things in there. And email me some assignments. She does not want him to fail. The thing of it is, when he takes quizzes and tests, he gets A's and B's. They are very concerned about him, and wondered, aside from his flu/cold, and the medication changes, is there anything else? The prinicipal prompted me by saying that she had a student many yrs ago who had Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) and his symptoms manifested big time when he was an adolescent. They have noticed some changes with-difficult child, in reg. to his lack of attention and his inability to remember things, and not caring, and, and, and, and ... and all I could say was, "If I were a 19-yr-old bmom, I'd lie about drugs and alcohol! But I think she was clean." I just hate to have them barking up the wrong tree and wasting time guessing (hey, I'm an expert at that!), unless they can come up with-something I've missed. They said that despite the amt of school he has missed, they strongly encourage our appts with-the therapy doctor and will work around it to make sure he keeps up with-his schoolwork. I'm still waiting to hear back from the other teacher about what she learned at the Asperger's conference. They said it's clear that he works very, very hard to keep it together at school, and he does not have outbursts like he does at home, but that he is anxious and hyper. I said I am going to be much more structured on weekends and during winter break in 2 wks, which should help on Mondays and after break. They also suggested that I give him rewards for doing homework, which I will do. I think he's outgrowing his medications. Again. (If you recall, we went through this in the fall.) I called another, private school today, and left a msg to make an appointment for an interview. This is the one that husband and I toured three wks ago. We are pretty good with-it in general, but we want to make sure it's a good fit. The person I spoke with wasn't sure who to refer me to, until I told her that difficult child is ADHD and has been formally diagnosis'd. So, I'm waiting for an appointment. I know he cannot go back in the fall, where he is now. This is too much of a struggle. And they are trying so hard. Now, husband and I have to sit and talk with-him tonight and break the bad news about the grades.