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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 639540" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>You'd probably get more responses if you started your own thread. Anyhow, welcome to our forum. Sorry you had to come.</p><p></p><p>I have adopted kids and it is sometimes hard to know why they do what they do if we don't know their history or much about thier biological parents. Nature is very powerful. By your son's symptoms, I am wondering if he ever had a complete evaluation by a neuropsychologist. He sounds a lot like my now twenty one year old adopted son who is on the autism spectrum. My son has done VERY WELL with interventions and I can't tell you how much he has progressed. But first you need to get a professional diagnosis so you know what you are dealing with. Neurosychs are the gold star of diagnosticians in the United States. I would not go with the teachers, a regular social worker or therapist, or anyone without a very, very advanced degree and knowledge of testing children to find out how their little brains are working. A pediatrician does not have the ability to test and to really know what is wrong with a child, other than if he has strep throat or other childhood ailments. He is not really trained to understand childhood disorders and adopted children can have very complicated problems.</p><p></p><p>One question: Did his birthmother drink or use drugs during her pregnancy? My son's birthmother did and all the professionals believe that this contributed to his autistic spectrum disorder. But it can also cause stuff like cognitive delays, learning disabilities, behavioral issues and fetal alcohol spectrum disorder. Most of our adopted kids did NOT have a good prenatal experience! My son had cocaine in his system at birth and also was infected with syphillis, which they cured. In spite of all that he has surpassed all expectations and is such a NICE young man. Everyone loves him. His early interventions were gold for him. He has had interventions from very early on.</p><p></p><p>There is the chance he has attachment disorder, which is more serious, but he was adopted at such a young, young age...that wouldn't really fit the situation unless his early years were extremely chaotic due to the divorce.</p><p></p><p>Many adopted kids are stellar members of society. I have three amazing adopted kids. One is the one I just described. He is up for an award for Outstanding Young Adult. My daughter who is in school for Criminal Justice has been the sweetest, best daughter on earth and I wouldn't trade her for a billion biological kids. My oldest adopted daughter did get into trouble in high school, but she turned it around and is another amazing, smart, talented young woman with her own house, good values, a nice SO and a beautiful baby.It has been ten years since she has gotten into even a smidgen of trouble. They are the best kids ever.</p><p></p><p>I wish you good luck. There is hope <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /> He just hasn't been evaluated right or gotten the right interventions. He does not have a behavioral problem. It is not his fault. Make an appointment. with a neuropsychologist. You'll be glad you did <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 639540, member: 1550"] You'd probably get more responses if you started your own thread. Anyhow, welcome to our forum. Sorry you had to come. I have adopted kids and it is sometimes hard to know why they do what they do if we don't know their history or much about thier biological parents. Nature is very powerful. By your son's symptoms, I am wondering if he ever had a complete evaluation by a neuropsychologist. He sounds a lot like my now twenty one year old adopted son who is on the autism spectrum. My son has done VERY WELL with interventions and I can't tell you how much he has progressed. But first you need to get a professional diagnosis so you know what you are dealing with. Neurosychs are the gold star of diagnosticians in the United States. I would not go with the teachers, a regular social worker or therapist, or anyone without a very, very advanced degree and knowledge of testing children to find out how their little brains are working. A pediatrician does not have the ability to test and to really know what is wrong with a child, other than if he has strep throat or other childhood ailments. He is not really trained to understand childhood disorders and adopted children can have very complicated problems. One question: Did his birthmother drink or use drugs during her pregnancy? My son's birthmother did and all the professionals believe that this contributed to his autistic spectrum disorder. But it can also cause stuff like cognitive delays, learning disabilities, behavioral issues and fetal alcohol spectrum disorder. Most of our adopted kids did NOT have a good prenatal experience! My son had cocaine in his system at birth and also was infected with syphillis, which they cured. In spite of all that he has surpassed all expectations and is such a NICE young man. Everyone loves him. His early interventions were gold for him. He has had interventions from very early on. There is the chance he has attachment disorder, which is more serious, but he was adopted at such a young, young age...that wouldn't really fit the situation unless his early years were extremely chaotic due to the divorce. Many adopted kids are stellar members of society. I have three amazing adopted kids. One is the one I just described. He is up for an award for Outstanding Young Adult. My daughter who is in school for Criminal Justice has been the sweetest, best daughter on earth and I wouldn't trade her for a billion biological kids. My oldest adopted daughter did get into trouble in high school, but she turned it around and is another amazing, smart, talented young woman with her own house, good values, a nice SO and a beautiful baby.It has been ten years since she has gotten into even a smidgen of trouble. They are the best kids ever. I wish you good luck. There is hope :) He just hasn't been evaluated right or gotten the right interventions. He does not have a behavioral problem. It is not his fault. Make an appointment. with a neuropsychologist. You'll be glad you did :) [/QUOTE]
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